Why can't people just enjoy their garden without being loud, obnoxious wankers?

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I have awful neighbours all year round but something about being outside makes them even louder and more obnoxious. They talk loudly/shout/swear/have loud bbqs with lots of drinking which just makes them louder and they have kids running around screaming until late too because they are all bloody chavs.

I expect noise and people to enjoy their garden but why do some people think their "right" to enjoyment overrides everyone else's "right" to enjoy their garden also!

Earlier I gave up reading my book outside in the sunshine because all I could hear was next doors ever bearing voices and kids screaming. I have kids and I tell them constantly to keep their voices down/stop shouting because I want them to grow up with a sense of consideration for others.

It's warm tonight but I've had to shut my bedroom window because the neighbours are outside talking.

I've tried talking to them but they aren't that bothered.

Why do people think "Ooo sunshine! Let's go outside and be twats!"

I can't wait to move one day!

God they sound annoying.

If you have already spoke to them and they aren't to bothered, There is not much you can do, Besides they probably are aware you think they are chavs and therefore do not care what you think. It's a horrible description of a family and young children.

Move if you must.

YANBU.

I have a similar issue but on a lesser scale and they aren't horrible people. But summer means thdm all outside of an evening, drinking and being very loud until 1am ish. DS's bedroom is at the back so he can't sleep as they are so loud. He has to sleep in our room then we wake him and move him later. There is a young adult son whomhas taken to playing rock music in the day and screaming along with it. I've had to come inside before as it was so off putting.

Fucks me right off! Not hard to have consideration and I'm always reminding my DC not to bellow about in the garden because of the neighbours.

They've made my life hell since I moved in because they don't care for the fact that they live within close proximity to other people, they just make noise and more noise, throughout the night sometimes.

The kids are the grandkids of the couple living there who visit everyday as well as everyone else they could possibly know. They have one grown up daughter living with them who's awful. I keep finding plastic bottle bongs in my garden from her

I particularly enjoyed my neighbour bellowing 'LEXIE! STOP BEING A TWAT!' at her six year old this afternoon.

I don't think people realise or care they live next to people. I don't expect people to creep about but how is it every other neighbour can have a bbq/relax outside without annoying anyone but they can't? It feels so intrusive.

I see from your update it is constant with extended family and all other visiting. Nice neighbours are worth their wait in gold. Is it a HA property, Is there any chance of a transfer.

This does not help at all...but this is why I love being in Japan. Their culture is that you don’t disturb your neighbours full stop. Certainly the latest cut off time for any kind of noise is 10pm. It’s absolute bliss! People ask me if I got culture shock going there. No I didn’t. But I bloody got it when I came back!

Honestly I think we are a bit “me, me, me” in the UK. We seem to think it’s our “right” to do what we want without consideration to others. In terms of late night garden noise I use a portable air conditioner because for one it cools my room, and I struggle to sleep on hot nights, and for two it drowns out the noise of the partying neighbours. I can sleep through the air con as it’s white noise, in a way I can’t when it’s yelling and loud music.

No they are council and mines owned so the only way out is for me to move because they are there for life

Oh the joy of loud neighbours. We moved to get away from ours.
"Tina - where are my trousers" was often bellowed from the dormer window in the loft to his wife in the garden.

Wife would be sunbathing in the garden shouting down the telephone. Then they got a dog that barked all the time - and went nuclear if he saw my two cats. They helpfully used to shout "Fucking shut up" to the dog every 5 minutes - the dog ignored them.

Weigh

I've just had a sarky "yes can i help you?" From my neighbour because I dared to go out to the bin in my garden and happened to catch her eye over the fence.
Fuckwit.

Oh that is awful. If you speak to the HA about them they might hassle you more. Sounds like a nightmare.

'We seem to think it’s our “right” to do what we want without consideration to others'

Totally agree. A lot of people seem to think that they live in their own little bubble where only their rules apply. This seems to get ramped up at the first sign of sunshine too. Some people can't seem to enjoy the weather without yelling, blaring music and drinking far too much.

Sounds awful OP. I had noisy neighbours in the past and I feel for you

Last week I heard one of the son's (who visits every fucking day with his kids) "fuck off you fucking twat or I'm gonna fucking kill you. Cunt." Charming. They had kids there too

You remind me of a friend with this problem. Do you live in the North west?

I thought if they are council tenants you complain to the council about them, they behave and they stay, I don't believe the council allows anti social behaviour.

I've suffered terribly since moving here but it's gotten worse over the last year. When I moved in my mother was in my front garden and spoke to an older gent walking his dog who told her about next door having loud parties with police called (I've luckily only seen that once) and they chuck cans and bottles all over the grass verges outside etc.

I'm a mum on my own with my kids (dp who isn't their dad doesn't live with me) so I think they prey on the fact I'm just a woman on my own.

I've had terrible anxiety with it, barely sleep some nights with anxiety and worry and hate coming home. They aren't noisy every second of the day but when they are it puts me on edge again.

Tro the only problem with complaining (which I would love to) is if I sell it could be detrimental to the sale if I've had trouble with neighbours.

I think I'd rather just ride it out and move in the next couple of years when I get the money together.

Phase no I'm not in the north

Op,no good advice but my heart goes out to you,it's really horrible you have to suffer like this.hopefully you can get some peace soon.

Sympathies OP.
Hang in there.
I must say I am finding the loud neighbour support threads than sprung up with the sunshine therapeutic!

There's a sunshine neighbours support thread?

YANBU. I'd rather be a hermit than have noisy neighbours!

Yep we have feral bastards on one side. They are quite cheeky, putting binsnout in the way of our drive etc because god forbid anything gets in their way! We were in the garden On Sunday and were treated to her screeching along to music whilst cleaning. Then the husband came home and on went Rock FM just loud enough to annoy us all. She sung along too and believe me she has a terrible voice. Then heard one of them have a nice loud fart a few times.

At least they didn’t have the rest of their scummy family in with them. Son and dil who communicate by bellowing andabout 6 screaming kids one of which is constantly crying....I have no idea why. This leads to his mum shouting ‘what the fuck are you crying about now? For fuck sake straighten your face!’ Then the dog joins in by barking so they shout at her too..,,😫

Fluffy that sounds truly awful!

I keep saying to myself this is not forever, one day I will look back on it all and laugh (but not for a long time!) But while you're living through it it's awful and soul destroying