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To think my dog is doing his job....

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Notjustamam · 15/05/2018 20:06

So I’m going to try and cover everything. Moved into a new house a year ago. Was an emergency move due to escaping violent ex.
House was/is a complete state. Inside and outside require thousands to make it ‘home’
Anyway.... house is local authority. Both ndns own their property. Ndn1 (joined to my semi detached) is a lovely old woman. Completely understanding of the fact we have 5dc and a lot of work to do.
Ndn2 is a complete dick. Since the day we moved in he has complained to the council about EVERYTHING. The hedge is too high (was when we took the property) we cut the hedge, he complained about bin bags with the cuttings in. Back garden is all weeds (was when we moved in) council advised him we have a lot of work to do inside so outside is last on the list.
We share a walkway to the rear gardens. My garden is fenced, his isn’t. About 3 months after we moved in dd1 left her bike on the walkway. It disappeared within 10 mins (cannot be seen from the street) police spoke to him. He claimed no knowledge but council have, basically, stopped acknowledging his complaints.
Fast forward to last month. We went on holiday and left a family friend pet sitting. We got home and ended up with police at the door. Ndn2 has made a complaint that our dog jumped up at the gate and barked at him as he was entering his property therefore he is a dangerous dog.
I am livid! Firstly, the dog is there to protect the property/family. He always barks if someone comes to front door or comes down the walkway.
Secondly, how is a dog that is fenced in dangerous?
Thirdly, I think if ndn2 has an issue he should have raised it with us rather than getting police involved.
Ndn1 btw, is totally on our side and says ndn2 caused issues for previous tenants who were elderly, disabled and, eventually widowed to the day the property was vacated.
My aibu is: police agree that it was a waste of resources, ndn2 is known for causing issues but they want us to sign a statement saying dog will only be out in public with dp or my supervision just to appease ndn2. I want to refuse as dog is not dangerous, my older dcs love walking him, and ndn1 has agreed to back us up.
Dp wants to sign to stop the whole thing.
Advice please....

OP posts:
Wolfiefan · 16/05/2018 08:31

Supervised doesn't mean vaguely in the same space. You need to prevent your dog jumping up and barking at members of the public. You clearly think you're in the right. The law says a dog mustn't be allowed to intimidate people. You're putting the life of your pet at risk.

shockthemonkey · 16/05/2018 08:41

Hi OP, I don't know if it's been mentioned already as have only read your posts and a selection of the replies, but I would be concerned that your nasty ndn2 might do something to harm your dog -- eg throw some food laced with something nasty over the fence.

So while I think your ndn2 is being a ass, I would advise you do your best to placate him somehow.

Also, to protect your dog, can you place security cameras on the exterior of your house with a view over the fenceline? That way you'd be able to a) get evidence or otherwise of dog's "threatening" behaviour and b) discourage any illegal behaviour from ndn.

Sorry for the situation you're in

PorkyPortia · 16/05/2018 08:53

Whoknowswhocares is spot on
Also ask the police to look into his harassment of you and your family
I wouldn’t sign anything

myusernamewastakenbyme · 16/05/2018 09:08

Op i think your ndn is vindictive and i dont agree with advice to placate him whilst you sit back and do nothing...In your position i would call the police and tell them your ndn threatened you....perhaps a visit or 2 from the police and the ndn would think twice about making up lies in the future....i know i will get flamed for suggesting op wastes police time but i honestly think with this neighbour you have to fight fire with fire !!!
Good luck op i think you will need it x

SendYouUpinFlames · 16/05/2018 09:15

NDN is bu. The dog was in a fenced garden. It was doing it's canine thing and barking when it saw someone.
My dog does this. And believe me she is NOT dangerous.
I really don't see the probkem. It barked and jumped at it's fence. Like any dog would.
It didn't jump on your NDN. Or at him.
Tell him to get fucked the morngy old sod.

mustbemad17 · 16/05/2018 09:19

It really doesn't matter how anybody feels about it, it is the law. And by not putting steps in place to make sure you comply within it you are risking your dog's life based on the attitude of 'i know my dog isn't dangerous' - it really isn't worth it. I don't agree with the law, i think it is batshit BUT i wouldn't put my pet at risk simply to prove a point

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