How to deal with NPD SIL

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She is horrendous. All over my husband, flirting, calling him at work, saying how wonderful he is and completely ignoring me. I know it's not an affair, I don't think she even fancy's him, it's all a game plan to get attention, if I contacted her husband she would be livid. we only see them 4 x a year, I try to ignore it but it really annoys me, she also charged us to stay at their house at Christmas even though they invited us, my husband paid it which really annoyed me and now she keeps contacting him. Any ideas on how to handle this?

Why doesn't your husband tell her to get lost?

He's to nice and doesn't want to cause problems between him and his brother, he also thinks she's just being a friendly SIL, she is very manipulative

Why doesn't your husband tell her to get lost?

This really ie the only question. If he doesn’t, SIL isn’t the problem.

What does NPD mean?

Her number should be diverted so her calls go straight to voicemail. Ditto emails, social media and all other forms of contact. Make sure your husband is never alone with her, that there is always another witness.

It's very a inappropriate form of behaviour and she is crossing the line. Married couples can have friendships with other people but they shouldn't flirt and burden their people with their intrusive behaviour.

Your husband should start putting up boundaries to protect himself from spiteful accusations from her in future. Women like this often become spiteful when their attention isn't reciprocated.

She sounds like a twat.

Does she actually have an NPD diagnosis or have you just decided that's it? Because armchair diagnosing serious personality disorders is also fairly shit tbh.

If her behaviour is bothering you and your husband, then you and he need to be ignoring her. Completely. Block her number and spend no further time with her.

NPD is Narcissistic Personality Disorder, I’m guessing?