Am i being melodramatic?

[SayImADreamer]

I've been with my boyfriend for coming up to 2 years and its a good happy relationship, except...I'm feeling sad that the honeymoon period has ended.

He's still really affectionate with me and we obviously still fancy each other and have sex etc, but its just less intense, less "must have" if you know what i mean.

Ive never been in a relationship this long despite being in my early 30s and i was talking to my boyfriend about this and telling him it made me feel a bit sad and insecure, the fact that it isnt as "passionate" or as intensive as before, amd he said i was being a bit melodramatic and looking for problems where there arent any.

Deep down i know he's right but i miss those days...did you ever feel this way too? Is it normal?

This is called real life... welcome :)

Very normal.

This is the point you get engaged and get excited about taking things to the next level...

Yes indeed, welcome to real life!
Enjoy the fact that you’ve found someone who makes you happy and is kind and nice.
If you keep looking for that initial ‘can’t keep yer hands off each other’ you’re looking in the wrong place!
There won’t always be fireworks but you can make your own show 😉

Ps make your own show is open to debate

Apples is right. Maybe you're feeling that it's time to move on and get engaged and he's not showing signs of that?

PPs fnar fnar

The intensity of the feelings that come as part of the honeymoon period is unsustainable.

It should develop into deeper more comfortable feelings that although aren't necessarily exciting on the surface are actually stronger and far more complex than the lust that came before it.

That's been my experience anyway, if I'm honest what I have with dp now 15 years on far far outstrips the (although fun) almost childlike excitement of the beginning of the relationship.

People get addicted to the adrenaline rush filled honeymoon period so much so that they opt out of perfectly lovely normal relationships when it happens. Your choice. You can leave and meet someone new and return to that stage but it will wear off again

Or you can stay and allow this to evolve as other PPs have suggested

Thank you for the reassurance, deep down I know its totally normal and "real life", sometimes I just look back on the very early "heady" days and feel a bit wistful!
I have been addicted to those first flush feelings in the past alright.

I married dh exactly 3 years after our first date. If anyone had told me then that I would love him more ferociously now (after 21 years together) or that our sex life would be better, I would have thought they were mad. I absolutely would not have believed it.
But it’s true. I suppose there is less of that adrenaline feeling but I do love him even more intensely than I did. Love evolves. Give it time, you might be surprised by what comes next.

Puffy cat 'what '??!!!

Depends. Do you live together? want to get married and have DC? Have you discussed that?