To think im not ready for this responsibility

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Really need some advice because i really dont know if i can handle this much responsibility.
My grandma and I are very close. I go to see her every week and have done since my earlier teens. Im the second youngest of 7 grandchildren, none of which have anything to do with my grandma for no particular reason other than theyre to busy with their own lives (theyre in their 30s and 40s) while my life is based around helping my grandma and look after DD 2. I do not begrudge anything i do for my grandma at all infact its a pleasure, she deserves to be well looked after, shes 89 and very immobile with early onset dementia.
My problem is she has now given me POA. I accepted because its what she wanted and she trusts me to take care of everything for her (i handle all her bills and finances) im just not sure if im ready to HAVE to take on all of this responsibility. Most of the time i feel like im only pretending to be an adult (im early 20s) and while i always go to her when she needs me i very rarely know what to do and basically just wing it until a real grown up comes. How am i going to cope with this? I dont want to let her down

You wont let her down. She trusts you and has seen how you manage your own life and believes tou can help her.
Remember you can ask for help and support as well x

You're already doing a good job, that's why she asked you to do it

It will be fine. She just needs someone she can rely on and trust to take care of matters she won’t be able to manage herself soon.

You don’t need to know everything. By “taking care of matters” that just means that you go and find stuff out from someone else who has more knowledge than you and make the decision on her behalf as it’ll be too complicated for her. It won’t for you.

Aren’t your parents around to ask for advice? The wider family? You will just be the one with thre legal powers to do her banking for her and sign things on her behalf.

Your gran has her head screwed on. Imagine how many people would leap at the chance to rip off an older relative, instead of worrying if they'll be up to the task.

I'm 50ish and dreading the responsibility of POA if we need it for my parents. It is a big responsibility and the fact you feel it means you probably are a good person to pick. Trust your judgement, your grandma does :)

Upstartcrow: you must know some odd people....