I'm not sure where to post this so using AIBU for traffic. Apologies if there's a dedicated topic for this.
Name changed as quite outing.
Been with DH for 4 years. He has an 8 year old son from previous relationship. He's going to court re child arrangements as his ex chops and changes, and often disappears without notice. He is left outside waiting to pick up his DS to have to leave as they aren't there. It's really sad. It hurts him a lot.
He's gone to court re this as he has no choice left. Mediation impossible as she wouldn't even respond to the letter. His solicitor is now involved and has emailed her. She has also seen a solicitor who had responded. I won't say what with or give the details, however she has told A LOT of lies. Thing is, these lies are about very specific things that she has done, however she has stated that DH is the one who did these things. Problem for her... DH has a lot of texts and emails that completely discredit everything she has said in this letter.
I am NOT involved hugely in this court battle and am here (with consent of my husband) asking for advice. DH only wants to see his son, has not got a volatile personality and is genuinely facing an ex partner who uses his child as a weapon. I knew him (am not the other woman btw) for years and am absolutely sure he has never been abusive etc or given reason for her to act this way.
AIBU to expect her lies to be taken in to account by the court? If he has messages to prove she is lying, they surely won't believe her?
I understand entirely that what is best for his DS is the only thing that matters to the court, and so it should be. DH just wants this to be over as is scared this is going to end badly.
Any advice? Never been to court before, I'm not attending as it's not my place but looking to support DH. Please only constructive answers, not looking to be told I shouldn't be involved or that mums feelings are most important not dads etc...