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To not get why this heterosexual couple are campaigning for civil partnership?

230 replies

Crunchymum · 14/05/2018 19:48

Just that really

I'm tired and haven't read everything about the case but I don't get it?

What are they hoping to acheive?

Gay couples being able to marry, I understand. This I don't.

For disclosure, i'm in a LTR with no intention to marry.

OP posts:
NailsNeedDoing · 14/05/2018 19:51

Maybe they want equality. Maybe they want the legal protection but not all the romantic stuff associated with marriage.

Littlefish · 14/05/2018 19:51

I think it's just about equality. All couples should be able to choose to have either a marriage or a civil partnership - which ever works best for their particular circumstances.

MismatchedStripySocks · 14/05/2018 19:53

I think it’s ridiculous and they have spent a lot of money just to prove a point.

AsAProfessionalFekko · 14/05/2018 19:53

Is it to do with pensions and insurance type things?

TheCatFromOuterSpace · 14/05/2018 19:55

I would have a civil partnership if it was allowed

Waggingmyginger · 14/05/2018 19:55

I had a friend who would prefer a civil acknowledgement for protection and rights but was disgusted with the notion of marriage due to what she felt were so many restrictive notions attached to it.

AnneLovesGilbert · 14/05/2018 19:55

Don’t get it at all.

Civil partnerships were created because the government were too spineless to let gay people get married.

Now everyone can get married heterosexual couples kicking up a fuss are being a bit daft.

Marriage may have a complicated history but if you want those rights then just get on with it.

havanagilahava · 14/05/2018 19:58

Wanting the legal benefits and recognition without the negative Christian, misogynistic connotations of marriage?

CherryChasingDotMuncher · 14/05/2018 19:59

I think it's downright offensive to imply that same sex couples have privileges that straight couples don't. These twits taking the issue to court should just get married if they want legal protection. Their need not to conform to the romantic ideals of marriage does not trump the hard fought for rights of gay people. It's a first world problem if ever I saw one

NotCisImaWoman · 14/05/2018 19:59

I think they are right.

MyNewAlias · 14/05/2018 19:59

^^ My thoughts exactly!

MissusGeneHunt · 14/05/2018 19:59

I'd have a CP if I could. For me it's about protection of rights and equality.

Clayhead · 14/05/2018 20:00

I think they're right too.

I would prefer a civil partnership to marriage.

CherryChasingDotMuncher · 14/05/2018 20:00

What do people think a civil partnership brings that a marriage doesn't?

MyNewAlias · 14/05/2018 20:00

I was referring to Gilbert.

AssassinatedBeauty · 14/05/2018 20:01

I'd have a CP rather than a marriage too.

raisedbyguineapigs · 14/05/2018 20:02

I think there should be some way for heterosexual couples to declare a partnership if they don't want to get married. Trouble is that gay couples have stopped having CP's by and large. I think there were about 800 last year, so they are likely to just be abolished.

TittyGolightly · 14/05/2018 20:03

What do people think a civil partnership brings that a marriage doesn't?

A purely legal arrangement that’s a hell of a lot easier to get out of than marriage.

Would have had one in a heartbeat if available to hetero couples.

It’s not fair/equal that gay couples get the choice of 2 legal couplings and straight couples don’t.

BroomstickOfLove · 14/05/2018 20:03

It's not so much a case of what a civil partnership brings, as what it doesnt bring which has the appeal. Although the idea of a partner rather than a husband or wife is appealing in itself.

Pannacott · 14/05/2018 20:04

Many many heterosexual couples would prefer a civil partnership to marriage.

There is no good reason why both marriage and CP are unavailable to heterosexual couples, unlike gay couples.

You are being unreasonable.

MsHomeSlice · 14/05/2018 20:05

if you are not married you basically have no legal standing as the partner of the person you live with

same sex couples have been given equal standing with married couples, with the civil partnership and this couple wish to be able to have the same benefits without having to get married.

I cannot see a single reason why any two people cannot do this so I hope they get it sorted

Walkingdeadfangirl · 14/05/2018 20:05

Whether you like it or not we have civil partnerships. And whilst we have them it is fair and right that straight couples should be allowed to use them. Its called equality.

Maybe you could get rid of them for everybody but then what do you do with all the people who already have one? Its very hard to take away peoples rights once they have them, so good luck with that.

I really dont get why people are against them, no one is forcing you to have one. I guess some people just want to force everyone to conform to their preferred social structure.

AvoidingDM · 14/05/2018 20:05

Maybe they are swingers, want an open marriageShock.

I'm sure I read the big difference between CP and marriage is adultery isn't grounds for divorce if your in a CP

Heatherjayne1972 · 14/05/2018 20:06

I don’t get it either
When it’s boiled down marriage is a legal contract - that’s all
You don’t need any of the weddingy/party stuff - just sign the contract

If it’s the legal protection these two want they can get it through marriage
What does a CP offer that a marriage certificate doesn’t ?

SerenDippitty · 14/05/2018 20:06

I think if people want the legal, administrative and financial benefits of marriage, they should get married.