I'd love to say I'm a long-time lurked, but I've become a very intense lurker since my daughter was born several months ago!
Anyhow, massive issue with PIL's - I'll try to give as much as possible so as not to dripfeed.
PIL are retired, late 50's....we live in the same town as them....but they have a holiday caravan a few hours away. My parents also live in the same town, both work full-time.
A few weeks back, I was rushed to A&E - what had been a standard infection had entered the blood stream, and I was diagnosed with sepsis, a pulmonary embolism and a few other bits and pieces - two weeks in hospital, bags upon bags of antibiotics, morphine injections etc etc.....
My husband called his parents asking them could they help mind DD (as in one feed a day - 2/3 hours so he could visit me in hospital, I was having a bad reaction to the drugs and very, very ill).......they said no, fair enough.....DH and my parents all took annual leave days and it was covered off. That interaction was about six weeks ago, since then his received a few texts saying they 'hope i feel better' or i 'must be feeling better by now'. They spent the last few weeks at their holiday home.
This weekend, there was a text to say they now plan on spending the next few days in our town to 'help'......this is my first full day with DD.....what changed? Last week I ran into PIL's close family friend in my GP surgery at one of my numerous check-ups and she was shocked to hear I was so unwell (and in her words - look bloody awful!)
DH text his parents to say that we were good - now they want to see their granddaughter since it's been weeks!
AIBU to insist no thanks, we are all good, since I am still in recovery and minding DD for 12 hours by myself is a massive milestone? Even if all I can do is sit and watch tv and play with her on her mat?