To be pissed off at friends

[Cupcakecafe]

I'm currently on maternity leave, one of my friends asked last week if I'd be at home today as they wanted to come round while they were off work. So because of this I haven't made plans, need to go shopping at some point but decided to go tomorrow as they were coming today.
9.30 this morning I got a text checking it was still ok for them to come, and saying they'd be here early afternoon. I asked if they wanted to stay for dinner, and they said they'd let me know.
Just got another text now at 2.30 saying they'll just come this evening after dinner now as because it's nice they've gone out with their oh.
Aibu to be pissed off? If they'd have said that this morning I'd have gone out while it's nice and not be at home waiting for them to turn up.

Yes that is rubbish. I'd be annoyed too at waiting in all day for them. I would be tempted to text back something along the lines of 'great I've waited in all day now' but as I actually hate confrontation I probably wouldn't.

Tell them. They probably have a picture in their head if you having all the time in the world.

Something like ‘I wish you had told me earlier rather than me sat around waiting for you like a knob when it’s so nice out’

You’ll only have to say it once.

That is annoying! And rude. Not massively so, but still annoying nonetheless. I don't know about you but I found being on maternity leave to be quite lonely and boring at times, and EVERYTHING needs to be planned so having something like that would piss me off because now the day is wasted.
Tbh if I was that annoyed by it I'd say sod off to after dinner tonight I'll be too tired (but I'm grumpy like that)

Yes send gamerchick's text. It's perfect.

I replied saying that I'd stayed in waiting for them but I was going to go out now and for them to come another day.
Apparently it was their oh's decision, and they also had to go to a meeting at short notice this morning which delayed them. could've messaged when they found out about the meeting so I had chance to make other plans rather than wait so late

This is bollocks and I’d be annoyed!

Their time is more important than yours.

Don’t agree to meet at yours again.

bollocks to them
manners cost nothing

YANBU - I had something similar on Saturday, pissed me off no end, like I'm just going to hang about waiting for you to "finalise" your plans.
You're definitely not on your own with this!!

I do agree in principle it's very rude and i would have said that I already had plans for the evening, just to remind them you have a life, but... in this particular case they told you at 9:30 am they'd come in the afternoon, so you had the entire morning to go out... then they said at 2:30 they'd come later, so you still had the rest of the afternoon to go out. So really, unless you were specifically wanting to go out for lunch, you haven;t really lost any time that you could have been out and about? Although I get that it can feel uncomfortable to go out if you feel that it's a rush before somebody gets there. And they were rude to basically say they didn't value the plans they'd made with you,

Well done for saying something.

Hopefully it will never happen again and they'll make it up to you.

In your place I'd text them saying that I'd 'made plans for the evening and how unfortunate...' and leave it at that. They've been inconsiderate.

Just text them and say that, as it is a lovely evening, you've decided to go out instead.

please say you are not available

Well rude. Not uncommon these days unfortunately, some people think nothing of blowing you out for a better offer.

It is rude, but then I also don't really get this thing of not making a firm arrangement there & then tbh.

What and they didn’t think maybe you would like to go out seen as it’s nice?

Bloody rude and I’d say sorry I’m busy tonight

Just go out for dinner. Don't tell them. When they text you to ask where you are, just send the same message back to them.