To feel sad ...

[Helendee]

Because my youngest son told me today that he and his fiancée (whom I get on really well with) are getting married in St Lucia next year. He said that we were very welcome to join them but because of health and financial problems there is no way we will be able to go.
I gave him my blessing and said how happy I am for them but inside I feel a little broken-hearted that I won't be there to see my boy take his vows.
I was wondering whether to offer to arrange a celebration for them back home after the event, but would that look as if I'm interfering?
I would be very grateful for any opinions please.

Thank you everyone. X

I had a celebratory party in my home town after my actual wedding & honeymoon. It was brilliant to have this to look forward to on honeymoon despite REALLY not wanting it beforehand. Maybe suggest a party afterwards?

At least they haven't move there...or to Australia! Not being facetious OP just trying to put it in perspective.

Hopefully they will have something at home to celebrate too.

Have they spoke about getting it Recorded? Could it be live streamed to you?

DIL's mother is a very narcisstic person and probably won't be too bothered to be honest. I think they told her yesterday.

Of course YANBU but you have handled it in a gracious manner. You sound lovely x

No I totally agree Ajas.
I would love to pay for a party for them if they would like that.

Oh than you Bakedbeans. You do anything for your babies don't you. 🙂

I will ask them to look into it Birds.

Speaking as a DIL, a splendid party back here afterwards would be lovely.

I’m a very private person and the thought of being a bride at a wedding with everyone looking at me brought me out in hives! We got married abroad and it was lovely. We had a nice (but very low key!) celebration with mum etc when we got home. Am sure they’ll want to do something similar. Good luck!

Thank you once again everyone. I have to wish you goodnight now as I'm up early for work in the morning.
I really appreciate your taking the time to reply and for my flowers. 😃

Awww OP. My family are in a similar position with my brother, who's marrying his Sri Lankan fiancee out there in November. My mum's health isn't up to making it, my dad couldn't leave her and I'm not up to the journey/heat/vaccines/food myself so none of us are going. He's very upset about it but we can't magic the situation! We'll have a celebration next summer here in England but they'll have already been married 6 months by then so not sure what we'll call it...

Helendee, I really feel for you must be so upsetting if it was me I would be heartbroken.
Could you maybe gently broach the subject of having, some sort of celebration when they get back, a family meal or small party?
I hope you can work something out💐

This happened to friends of mine. When they came home from the wedding/ holiday they had a small church blessing for immediate family to attend. Family wearing their wearing outfits, then a meal. Parents were happy, bride and groom happy- not a big 'do', just nice for parents to share the 'wedding'.