Shower AIBU

[Motherofallbeasts]

Please help me settle an argument.
Do you store your ‘special’ things like a fancy shampoo or shower gel given as a gift - in the shower or would this result in dp, dc using them and take them back to your room?

Thank you ☺️

No I would just leave them in the shower. Dp would not use them and dd probably would not either but I would not mind if she did.

What on earth is fancy shampoo, and who gives shower gel as a gift?? If the items are expensive and you don't want them used them don't leave them

Mine end up covered in dust in the cupboard because of allergies and eczema - crap gifts!

I had expensive specialist shampoo (now discontinued ) and kept it in the bathroom but everyone else knew to keep clear.

Mostly we just respect each other's stuff? That said, mine aren't teenagers yet so all could still go downhill.

DH and I have a separate bathroom to the DCs but if we shared then I know my 20 year old DD would use my stuff so I’d have to keep it in my room. It is safe from DH though....

Fancy shampoo for me would be anything from a department store or salon not 3 for 2 in the supermarket eg Aveda or Paul Mitchel. I regularly get given shower gels/bath oils etc as gifts - they are sold in gift sets at Xmas so certainly not unusual.

I wouldn't mind sharing. They are my family. It's just shampoo and shower gel, even if it's £££.

DS used up almost a whole bottle of Jo Malone bath oil from our en suite a while back. That made me want to lock my bedroom door to keep him out. It wasn’t done spitefully, just with a complete lack of concern.

Hide. Hide. Hide.

I often get Rituals sets at Christmas and DH uses them. I don't mind if he likes to pamper himself

Hide. Anything left in the shower is seen as fair game in our house!

It seems I was BU by expecting DDs friends not to use my birthday pressie Jo Malone shower oil then! They used it all up cheeky beggars! I know to hide stuff in my room now but as DH and DC have never touched anything that was obviously a gift it never occurred to me. Thanks for your replies :)

You shouldn’t have to hide your stuff, it’s your house ffs. Tell them not to do it again and if they do then make them buy a replacement.

I have an 'what's mine is yours' attitude so if my DH wants to use my Jo Malone, rituals, Neals Yard, whatever, bath stuff and enjoy it too then so be it.

Nah I leave them in the bathroom and then moan when they've wasted it and I can see evidence up the tile and ask them to use it sensiblely.

It's just shampoo or shower gel, I don't care if DS or a visiting family member uses it.

Guests used JO MALONE oil?? That’s very cheeky.

I’d have used the most ‘ordinary stuff when showering at a friend’s when I was younger.

Yeah my DH and my son would use anything I left in the shower.
Unless I specifically told them not to but even then theres a chance my husband would forget.
We each have a shelf in the bathroom for personal stuff so I put anything I dont want using on that.
Any shampoo etc left in the shower is for communal use.

Just a thought - not everyone knows how expensive things like no Malone are. They might not have realised how pricey it can be so didn't think it would upset you?

DH wouldn't be able to tell if it's special and would unthinkingly use it. He knows not to touch any moisturiser though.

I just leave everything in there, we all do but I know for next time. I wouldn't have noticed if the 2 of them had used a squirt each but it was at least 1/2 full - they must had a very luxurious shower. I live and learn.

I would expect family not to steal your pressies and use their own stuff. Their friends however have no idea whose is whose.

PS they did know because they said to DD "Wow, you must be rich having Jo Malone shower gel" - which is a sweetly naive way of looking at it :)