We're both 44 - together 1 year. Both divorced. We no kids together. I thought it was going well. Now I'm confused.
A month ago, he became a bit different. Having been cheated on in the past, and feeling anxious, I checked his phone today.
In early April, he Facebook friended a woman - he worked with her for a few years in the early 1990s it seems. Nothing would have happened in the past, he met his ex wife at school and was monogamous until they split up at 40. But I think he's fallen for this woman now.
Messages started with usual "how are you?" Etc. Normally, when the pleasantries have been exchanged, the messaging stops, right? But... they've messaged regularly (although not every day in fairness) since then, which I think is weird. There's no sex stuff or innuendo but they chat comfortably, joke around, and seem to have things in common. I'd almost prefer sexting tbh! He refers to her twice as "lovely" as in "have a nice day, lovely" and has been impressed by what she's achieved (she's a high flier and told him about her scientific career which he described as "amazing").
He had some good news on Monday and she was the first person he messaged about it, I think. They'd been talking about it on Sunday.
She mentioned betting on a Premier League match and he said, "if you win that £40 later you can buy me a pint". No actual request to meet though.
Lots of emojis, a few xx at the end of messages.
I think he's got a crush. Maybe she does too.
Aibu to think that a straight guy messaging a new female Facebook contact regularly for a month is strange - instead of going quiet once you've done the initial catching up?