Was I BU to make such request to my sister?

[Schoolisback1973]

My sister has been forwarding videos of my lovely and funny 18months old nephew. These videos are issued by my SIL. She doesn't send them to me because we just do not speak at the moment and don't really get on.

I asked my sister this evening to not forward them anymore. I am hurt, feel excluded and don't think SIL would be happy that I get to see these.
I am also upset that she deliberately send them to everyone except for me.
Was I BU? I feel slightly childish for saying that. My nephew is the cutest and I feel a sadness after watching a few of his videos. After all, she doesn't want me in his life.

I don't think your being unreasonable at all. You are putting your feelings first and not letting yourself get down every time you get a new video.
I'm sure you can tell your sister about being hurt that the relationship with Sil means your missing out and she'll understand. Then when you do see your sister if you feel like you want to see how your nephew is getting on then she will show you.

What’s your relationship like with your brother? Will you not be part of your nephews life through him?

I don’t think you are BU to ask them to stop (it takes less effort from your sister to not send them).

I used to be really close to my brother and SIL was always a bit resentful of this. My brother has some minor medical issues and I insisted for him to see a doctor. SIL texted and asked me to stop advising him. That I should not worry about him. It was her role as the wife, not mine.
I mentioned it to him and he brushed it off. I started keeping my distance since.. Sadly, we rarely talk now.
Thank you! I feel a bit better and will stick to my guns when my sister brings it up.

Every time you watch one of the videos, it will only serve as a reminder of what you are missing out on. Out of sight and out of mind is the best thing you can do for your own mental health. You did the right thing when you asked your sister not to forward the videos any more.

That said, it sounds as if you would prefer to be back in touch with your brother and his family and regardless of who was right or wrong or who overstepped their role, I would try to do this if you can. From bitter experience, the longer these things go on for, the harder it is to get back in contact so if possible do it now while your nephew is still so young.

What a silly thing to fall out over.

Can't you make up with your brother and SIL? Life's too short to fall out over small things. If he's a competent adult then he should be able to seek medical advice himself if he is unwell without advice from either his wife or his sister.

And if I found out anyone was forwarding or sharing videos of my child I'd be pissed off.
I don't share on social media and only email or text for the reason I get to chose who I share pictures and videos with.

Why did you keep your distance? It seemed like a conversation that could easily be resolved and she may have had more information about your brother that was not hers to share or she was being to involved but neither worth falling out over.