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Want a rescue dog, offer a lovely home but ready to give up!

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Chimcha · 12/05/2018 19:14

We have a lovely 9 yr old dog, DH and I have both had dogs all our lives and very experienced with animals. We want to get another dog so started looking at rescues. We offer a wonderful family home, where dog is walked twice a day and have a small farm and woodland which we visited every day with our dog. So far, before even meeting us, I have been declined by four rescue charities, because of the following reasons 1) we have children under 14, 2) we don't have a 5 ft fence going round our garden, 3) we don't have a 6ft fence going round our garden, 4) we don't have someone at home all the time (though we've never out for more than 4 hours anyway because of our current dog, and if we on the rare occasion are MiL pops over!!). Our garden is very secure with a big hedge and stream and then backs on to farmland, we re not on a road (at end of a track), have a big garden, have our own small farm where we take the dog every day as well, and MiL pops in whenever we are out. Not one of these charities have met us, we just didn't fulfil the checklist. It's frustrating. We rescued our current dog when she was a puppy, and would offer a wonderful home to a second dog. I completely get the need to have criteria, please don't think I'm disputing that, but I feel it is so tight that they turn away potentially good people because they didn't tick a box, rather than having any flexibility. I wonder if we keep looking at rescue charities or instead get a puppy instead.

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mustbemad17 · 12/05/2018 21:59

Bumpowder having blanket rules doesn'f guarantee a forever home for a dog. Someone can meet every criteria you throw at them & still end up dumping the dog. A good rescue assesses their dogs so they know the quirks. They check families out as much as they can.

Re 6ft fences, one of my foster failures could scale 8ft without breaking a sweet. We worked around it. Responsible dog owners know that a fence isn't always a barrier...just a challenge

BumpowderSneezeonAndSnot · 12/05/2018 22:01

I agree which is why I recommended the dogs trust as we found them extremely flexible

bridgetosomewhere · 12/05/2018 22:21

We rescued a part lurcher from dogs paws aid in Romania. He was only 4 months when we got him and he’s been a total delight.

They are a lovely organisation - look them up on Facebook.

It doesn’t cost any more than rescuing from a UK charity either

Notevilstepmother · 12/05/2018 22:22

I don’t know personally but I’ve seen this rescue on Facebook.

www.lozzaslurcherrescue.co.uk/

whoseafraidofnaomiwolf · 12/05/2018 22:24

OP I've sent you a PM.

pawsies · 12/05/2018 22:54

If you can't find a rescue dog from a charity have a look at Preloved or Facebook. Plenty of dogs that need homes on there that the previous owners advertise. You can ask all the questions you want and because you are speaking to the owner are likely to get more details than from the rescue.

Be prepared that some people will lie though to get rid of the dog.

maxthemartian · 12/05/2018 23:01

Search for desert hound express foundation on fb... they are a Middle Eastern rescue so plenty of Salukis and Saluki crosses. Any of those dogs would be incredibly lucky to end up with you.

MrsPaddyGrant · 12/05/2018 23:04

Have you a Dogs Trust near you? I volunteer at one and suitable homes are based on the dog - not blanket rules. So they rehome dogs with children, people with no garden and your leaving hours sound fine.

They have a website and the dogs profiles will say what home is suitable for that dog. At mine we get lots of lurchers and ex racing greyhocnds. Please don't buy a puppy - there are so many dogs in rescues that need homes.

bumbleboots · 13/05/2018 00:14

If you are in Kent, I would try London gumtree as there seems to be a high turn over of people giving away pets due to the circumstances of living in the city. A private rescue. Good luck

buckleten · 13/05/2018 00:30

Try border collie trust, and fall in love with a rescue - we have had homed dogs from both, and both were really helpful (and we have young children!)

bridgetosomewhere · 13/05/2018 10:34

I also rescued a lurcher from gumtree.
Found a very sad looking girl being kept outdoors shut in a kennel ‘because she chews’ so I went and bought her that afternoon. The man brought her in and she got on my knee and laid her head on my shoulder. I loved her but I couldn’t keep her as our dog won’t take to another one.

I found her a lovely home win a retired lady who had lost her greyhound x and wanted to adopt again but couldn’t as she didn’t have a private garden.

The photos I get from her are amazing. Adventures in the woods, sleeping on her bed, cuddling in the evening, snuggling her cat.
Yes she chews but only if left alone so they spend all their time together. It makes me very happy to think of the life she has now.

Anyway that was a long winded way of saying have a look at gumtree!

Fuckitbucket13 · 13/05/2018 10:40

We had the same problem when trying to get a cat. The (snobby) woman asked "will puss have somewhere to play"
"Will puss have its own garden"
She went on & on. In the end I told her I want a cat not to adopt a bloody child.
We got a kitten in the end & she's a very much loved, spoilt cat.
Such a shame these rescue places put people off

viques · 13/05/2018 10:43

If you are happy with an older dog try Oldies Dog rescue, they have harder to home dogs from all over the country.

SleightOfMind · 13/05/2018 15:05

Celia Cross near Guildford in Surrey is another independent rescue that looks at individual circumstances for individual dogs.
Jane, who runs it, is wonderful. She’ll match you with a lovely dog for your family and give you great back up care if you need it.

GinGeum · 13/05/2018 15:15

I agree with PP about looking into smaller rescues. We got our second dog from Black Retriever X on facebook. We weren’t looking for a specific breed, we just applied for the dog that best suited us (well, we had a loose idea of a Labrador and ended up with a working cocker...)

The dogs are in foster homes, often with children, so they are able to child/cat test them. They only ask for specific height fences if a dog is known to be a bolter.

SabineUndine · 13/05/2018 15:16

I can guess the name of one of the centres that has turned you down. They turned me down to rehome a cat, giving me no reason except I work full time and don’t always let my cat sleep on the bed. I’d previously had two cats from them, who had lived for many years but I was no longer good enough. I got my current cat by word of mouth.

RavenLG · 13/05/2018 15:20

Agreed OP. We’ve been rejected from so many rescues (all smaller, Romanian/Foreign rescues too) because we work. I fail to see how a dog in a kennel all day / possibly in poor conditions/ possibility of being pts is better than being in a loving home, we’ve got dog walkers lined up, we would come home at a lunch time, 2hrs a time would be max left but because we both work then we’re no good. It’s ridiculous.

bridgetosomewhere · 13/05/2018 22:18

RavenLG can you PM me and I will put you in touch with my rescue.
We work too as do many of the people they have rehomed to. You sound like you have all the practicalities worked out.

GerdaLovesLili · 13/05/2018 22:30

Have you tried Glendee? www.glendeedogrescue.com/adopting-from-glendee

UterusUterusGhali · 13/05/2018 22:49

I had a similar experience until I mentioned I would love a staffie. (Short hair, medium sized. Ideal!)

They then bit my hands off and I had a dog within a week. :/

This was Blue Cross, bless 'em.

DragonMummy1418 · 13/05/2018 23:03

Yep. We got our rescue dog before we had our DS (they are the best of friends, it's so heart warming!) and now we can't get a companion for our current dog because we have a child. 🙈
Apparently no rescue dogs are safe around children under 14! 🙄

Greedycushionhoarder2 · 13/05/2018 23:30

Have you tried fall in love with a rescue? They have a fb page and have lots of lovely lurcher whippety saluki types and say most are good with young children.

Littleredboat · 13/05/2018 23:46

I have no idea why people keep recommending Many Tears on here. They do EXACTLY what the OP describes. Have done to me and to two friends; ALL experience and current dog owners. They wouldn’t rehome to me because I have kids / work ( VERY part time and FROM HOME) despite me having successfully rescued the same breeds before.

Maybe they used to be good, but not any more.

Whatdoiladymcbeth · 13/05/2018 23:51

Please don’t give up! I was where you were, for different reasons, I found my dream dog and wouldn’t be without her.

slinkysaluki · 14/05/2018 00:05

In Kent and foster for a local rescue who get most of their dogs from pounds via Frandham Kennels near Dover. They rrehome directly from kennels also. It's Redwood Rescue in Swalecliffe near Whitstable. Jo who runs the rescue is fantastic.

There's Lord Whiskey rescue in Stelling Miimnis the Retired Greyhound Trust in Wingham.

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