Or as exh says, the most selfish person he's met?

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Exh and I have close to 50/50 of the 4DC. It's is worked around his shift patterns, so handy for him that he doesn't have to pay for childcare (I do).

It works out thatbhe has them 5 nights a fortnight. Wed, thurs one week and mon, tue (for dinner but not to sleep), fri and sat.

Anyway. I found a cheap caravan holiday for August for 4 nights midweek, going with my friend and her boy. It would mean me having them extra on his wed and thur. He's said no, it's selfish and horrible to ask him to miss time with them. I have said well book any extra time as annual leave and have them, I don't mind. He's point blank refusing. As a compromise I can have them extra on a Monday and make a long weekend of it. But 4 nights would be much better and more like a proper holiday than a weekend.

He is bitter because I have already taken them for a long weekend this year ( again cheap caravan holiday) and sees me as having loads of money and him being poor.

Also I have said to him that I am taking them for a whole week next year to go abroad. This is not unreasonable surely? We should be able to holiday with our children.

YANBU. Why should dcs miss out on a holiday

Does he go on holiday? Does he take the children?

If he does go and doesn't take the children, do you have them extra then, or do you give him extra time if he does want to take them?

Need a bit more context here OP. Although on the face of it, YANBU.

Just go on the holiday.
No judge would take his complaint seriously.
He is a selfish arse.
But likely you already know that and that's why he is an ex .

Did you ask him before you booked or after? He might be put out that you just went ahead presuming he'd be fine and not caring if he wasn't.

Although it does seem a sensible discussion about how holidays are handled in general (but not when one is looming) is needed.

He doesn't go on holiday with or without the children. Says he can't afford it. I don't think he realises I only paid £150 for my last little holiday.

I didn't book the caravan holiday without his permission no.

I have however booked a week for next year as I needed to pay in instalments and there is no way he is going to stop me. It's ridiculous if I can never take them away.