Mumsnet Logo
My feed
Premium

Please
or
to access all these features

AIBU?

To ask about your child's gaming habits? Advice please.

148 replies

ArsenalsPlayingAtHome · 12/05/2018 09:56

Basically I've let it all slide...I know my DS 12 yrs is spending ridiculous amounts of time playing Fortnight. I acknowledge it's my fault and I'm putting things in place as from this afternoon, as he will never voluntarily come off it ever!

He's in Y8.

Please can I ask how much time you allow your DCs spend on their PS4s/XBox, and their ages. Also if you think you've got the balance right?

Is it a constant battle?

Also, what chores are you chldren of similar (or older/younger) children doing? What else are they doing with their spare time?

Are they only allowed on if all HW & revision & chores are completed?

TBH I am annoyed at myself for allowing it to get so out of hand, and am determined to change.

I won't judge, far from it. I'm expecting and hoping lots of super organised parents to post, who have super regimented boundaries in place, but if there's anyone else out there in my position that would also help.

TIA.

Dragging him off for a walk with dogs soon, but will definitely catch up on all the suggestions on our return.

OP posts:
Report

Cantusethatname · 12/05/2018 21:09

Also year 8.
One hour between 8-9pm as long as he has done HW, packed bag, had bath etc. Otherwise he would be on it every waking moment. We still have furious rages when he comes off at 9 though.

Report

proseccoandchoccie99 · 12/05/2018 21:11

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

proseccoandchoccie99 · 12/05/2018 21:14

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

DayKay · 12/05/2018 21:15

Yr8 ds (and ds2) is only allowed to game on the weekends and only after hw and chores are done.
He’s been used to this for a long time so it’s not an issue.
He played for 3 hrs today but he studied for 2hrs, cooked breakfast for himself and sibling, sorted his laundry, watered the plants and took the recycling out.
Chores are just pitching in and keeping bedroom tidy.
He plays football and goes for bike rides with friends.

I’m not super regimented but that’s generally what happens in our house. We re quite a chilled household and, of course, there are days when it all goes to pot.

Report

proseccoandchoccie99 · 12/05/2018 21:21

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

proseccoandchoccie99 · 12/05/2018 21:22

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

wtfisgoingon · 12/05/2018 21:43

^
That’s what happens when children are allowed screen time after 9!
Does your mam know that you’re still up, **prosecco?

Report

PerfectlySymmetricalButtocks · 12/05/2018 21:51

Do you want your teddy to go to sleep with prosecco?

Report

proseccoandchoccie99 · 12/05/2018 22:10

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

proseccoandchoccie99 · 12/05/2018 22:15

stop deleting my messages fatties

Report

Rufustheyawningreindeer · 12/05/2018 22:21

Grin
Report

Rufustheyawningreindeer · 12/05/2018 22:21

I know I shouldn't encourage them but that was funny

Report

Rufustheyawningreindeer · 12/05/2018 22:22

Just the last message you understand...the rest have been deleted so I've no idea whats going on

Report

PerfectlySymmetricalButtocks · 13/05/2018 07:44

prosecco's about 6 and was up past his/her bedtime.

Report

ArsenalsPlayingAtHome · 13/05/2018 08:26

Lots of deleted posts there - wonder what all that was about!

Magpies I'm up to your post & just felt I needed to say - that is exactly how I feel.

Yesterday I made them all come on a walk with me - it was lovely, my DS and I chatted and had a laugh. The warm weather definitely helps with that sort of thing.

I taking everyone's advice in. Haven't actually had the chat yet, because hoards of family turned up yesterday so there just wasn't chance.

Going back to the post after magpies now!

OP posts:
Report

cuckooplusone · 13/05/2018 08:34

My DD 12 is a bit of a technophobe, so I don't have this issue (not into gaming) and I would like to encourage her to play more. She likes trashy TV and I think that gaming helps with analytical thinking, reactions and other skills (I was in the played too much to get my revision done camp as a teenager).

The way her TV gets limited is by doing lots of sport and having a plan for the day (eg you can watch TV now, but have to stop at X time and do some homework or come out for a walk).

I wouldn't worry about limiting playing, so long as all the other stuff that's needed gets done.

Report

PerfectlySymmetricalButtocks · 13/05/2018 12:09

Arsenals prosecco's a kid who was up past his/her bedtime. Their posts were - interesting. 😂

Report

ArsenalsPlayingAtHome · 15/05/2018 19:50

OMG I'm gutted I missed that! Typical!

Well thanks for your advice everyone DS was really rude on Monday, so the controller has been confiscated for the past couple of days, which has taken the onus off the whole issue, thank goodness.

Apart from this incident, his behaviour has been improving generally at home. I'll let you all know how we get on when he gets the controller back.

OP posts:
Report

PerfectlySymmetricalButtocks · 15/05/2018 21:51

Good luck! 🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀

Report

bvywure · 30/01/2019 14:53

buy screen protection glasses if u don't want to make his eyes fried

Report

Readysteadygoat · 30/01/2019 15:00

We got rid of Fortnite a couple of months ago. I used to feel like DS12 was playing xbox constantly but actually he has training 2 evenings per week and a game/tournament most weekends. Plus he would spend 1 or 2 nights at his Dad's. I think he actually only plays 1 or 2 hours per weeknight. It's more at the weekend but never all day

Report

Readysteadygoat · 30/01/2019 15:01

Just seen the date ha. I hope he's earned back his controller since May!

Report

HopeClearwater · 30/01/2019 15:06

buy screen protection glasses if u don't want to make his eyes fried

Say what? What are these? How do screens fry your eyes?

Report
Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

Sign up to continue reading

Mumsnet's better when you're logged in. You can customise your experience and access way more features like messaging, watch and hide threads, voting and much more.

Already signed up?