I don’t know if IABU and ultra sensitive or if my DH is the unreasonable one!
I have a couple of annoyances that I have been pulling him up on. I used to ignore it but as I have decided I don’t want to be talked/treated a certain way and I have been pulling him up on it. I have realised how much he actually does these things and feel like I’m constantly nagging.
If I ask him to do something he doesn’t want to do he will have a little huff like suddenly stop, make a dramatic intake of breath and roll his eyes then answer impatiently.
If I have done something he doesn’t agree with he pulls a face and has a knee jerk reaction of ‘you don’t want to do that, or you don’t need/want that’ etc
If I make a decision he will tell me how another way would be better which I’m sure sometimes it is but I would just like to do things my way occasionally even if it is harder or not as good as his idea.
I feel he always talks to me like he is on the back foot and always wants to be right rather than kind. He isn’t gentle or kind in the way he speaks to me with the tone and words being brisk and hard.
It’s got to the point he has started doing this in front of others.
I have asked him not to talk to me the way he is and pulled him up every time he has been rude/bulldozed me but it keeps happening and nothing I say seems to be making any sort of change.
I wonder if I’m just taking it to heart to much and should just be letting it go more. If it’s just something that is common when you have lived a longtime together and I should know he loves me.
Is it a ‘man’ thing and I’m just wanting him to talk to me a way girlfriends would speak to each other rather than a partner?
I know he loves me and he can be generous and kind in other ways. He will put himself out to help me with things/life in general but the way he is talking to me and acting like he is boss is beginning to really fuck me off!
So aibu and over dramatic?