to think dh is regressing by playing computer games!!!

[kate7]

my dh is a fantastic dad who is really hands on with our two dds, he's a really fun, funny guy, totally supportive (through all sorts of crap from bereavements to suspected brain damage in our second dd, thankfully not the case in the end), he does loads round the house, all the ironing and his fair share of everything else, and without being prompted most of the time(!!). Dh has a stressful job involving personal risk, as well as working shifts, and whenever he is on his own at home he spends quite a long time playing free online games on the computer. For some reason I have a real problem with this as I see it as very "teenage", and I am probably just being a bitch but wondered what anyone else thought???

i do it

divastrop my dh used to play ps2 online and was part of some sort of online community. The majority of the other members were blokes too though - only one woman as far as I remember. He even met a couple of the blokes for lunch in the city as they worked not far from one another. The chat was all about tactics as far as I know and was of no interest to me.

Think the issue with online gaming chat is perhaps to do with the fact that the partner not involved in it feels in some way that the other is part of some sort of community that they're not a part of. But equally they could get a hobby that was outside the house, eg football/paintballing/fishing/whatever, that the wife/husband wasn't a part of either. Just because it's online doesn't make it any more sinister.

i mean the male/female thing,yeah.i dont think its appropriate for a man whos in a relationship to chat to women online,i know what sort of chat can take place.

dp doesnt give out any personal details,and only chats 'in character' apart from to a couple of lads who hes been chatting to for ages.he said if anybody strated flirting with him he would tell them to eff off.ive told him that if he started chatting regularly to a female,or put a female on his 'friends' list or whatever i would consider that as cheating on me.

i just feel totally uncomfortable with the whole thing myself.

he reckons some of the people i chat to on here could just as easily be blokes so doesnt see why i have a problem with it.

My Dh is far more pleassant after an hour on his DS, we all need a break and tbh not very different as a method of relaxation than MN