To think this mum thinks bullying is okay as long as it’s not her child being bullied?

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A Facebook post saying ‘helping (6yo) ds to dress before school today and he asks me if he looks smart, I reply yes and he says ‘good because child A told child B that he’s scruffy and made him cry and I don’t want child A to say that to me’ I said don’t worry son, you’re not scruffy! ’ AIBU to think her response ‘don’t worry, you’re not scruffy’ might make her ds think it’s okay to behave like child A?

‘Scruffy’? Is this bullying?

If it made a small child cry and scared OP’s DS enough to make him worry about looking scruffy then it was probably said in a bullying way.

Bullies start young and learn to pick the weakest as their victim.

No I did not see that. She was trying to reassure her DS. Though I would have followed up with Child A was uncaring and mean saying this to child B and explain how it is not nice to judge.

There is a young boy aged 9 in DD'S class. The boys in school call him smelly and say he has a disease, it really hurts DD, not as much as the young boy I know.

I think "bullying" is being used a bit too much these days. Saying something mean is not bullying, it's just being mean. Not acceptable either, but that's not what bullying is all about.

And no, reassure your own child won't make them think it's acceptable to be unkind. Good lord!