Annoyed with FIL

[Jordan4531]

My MIL and FIL are lovely people, honestly. They look after both DDs when we need them to and come visit regularly. They are supportive of everything we do and try help whenever and however they can. But baby names is an issue.
I'm 3 months pregnant and DH and I have already picked our names, we've had a boy name since having second DD and have decided on a girls name which we love. Our FIL on the other hand has told us on multiple occasions how much he dislikes our name choice which he is entitled to think BUT he's constantly coming up with new names for us, names we do not particularly like. He's constantly telling us we should pick one of the names he likes because the ones we have picked he says don't go with our surname. We think they're lovely and have bitten our tongues.
Do I tell him to stop it and get over it as it is our baby and not up to him what we name him/her or ignore him? AIBU or is he being very rude and quite selfish?

Why on earth did you tell them!!!

@peachypetite because they asked, we told them our choices with youngest DD with no issue so didn't think anything of it.

So many threads on here with the same issue, nothing you can really do now except say it's your choice and you're sticking to it but you're only three months so good luck with the rest of the pregnancy. I definitely wouldn't tell anyone else.

YABU. Why why why did you tell him your name before baby is born, I thought everyone knew not to do that if they don't want rude comments! People can't seem to help reacting if they don't like a name before birth - much much less likely to say anything once born. I don't think he's rude or selfish, just human nature with a slight lack of a filter!

But now you're in this position, I'd just ignore or firmly say 'ah, it's a shame you don't like the name FIL but we're sticking with it - I'm sure you'll get used to it'.

'Look pops you'll be dead in a few years and she'll still be alive in 2118, so just drop it'

It’s none of their business! It’s your child. Just don’t discuss your names with them.

I wanted to call my son James, but MIL and FIL said he would always be known as Jimmy, and that's what they would call him. I regret backing down, and choosing another name. Remember the name you give your child is for life, and if you have chosen a name you like, don't let IL's change your mind.

Just say you will see what baby looks like before you decide.
Then decide it looks like the name you want!!
Job done.