To be at the end of my tether with DPs attitude to his health

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Dp is 58- his bmi is 30 so in the obese category. He has high blood pressure for which he is now on tablets but his BP is very erratic at the moment and is high. I am really worried about his health but he is literally in total denial about it and every attempt to discuss it ends up with him shouting and getting angry. He drinks a lot of strong coffee and does no exercise.
I feel really despairing at his inability to change or want to change- we have 2 young kids.

Pressed post too soon- AIBU to feel despairing about it- I just don’t know what to do. I feel like he’s a health issue waiting to happen and I feel like he is being irresponsible

Is he scared and therefore hiding from it?

I don’t know @tom - it’s literally like talking to a brick wall- he’s so resistant to any discussion. I cook really healthy food aswell which makes it even more frustrating as I think he’s eating crap in work despite my efforts

I'm so sorry op - my husband is a heavy drinker and I worry all the time as well. Anger/denial/getting worse if you talk about it - all familiar. So sorry.

I literally feel like I am living with a ticking time bomb

It sounds like he feels out of control and doesn’t know what to do. Can you tell him you’re just concerned because you love him and want to him, you’re not being critical.

There’s nothing wrong with drinking coffee though

Unfortunately you can't make him change his habits.

Difficult! Is there any exercise you can do together? Swimming, tennis, as s family? Join a gym so classes for the kids while you both do adult classes?

We turned out garage into s gym. Buy cheap off internet and we use the machines while chatting or watching iPads.