Tell me I have mAde the right choice

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Metoodear · 10/05/2018 18:21

So 5 months ago got offered my dream job with pt hours however it’s was quite far nearly a hour commute so I would often be lucky to be home by 7

I have 3 children my 18 year old has MH issues he’s on medication do depression

And have two other adopted children one who has attachment issues so turned it down

Had a opportunity to interview for the same role closer to home 5 minutes away but they want me to work full time

So I have instead took a job 8:30-3 three days a week
8 minute commute I am enjoying it but not not the dream

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Reaa · 10/05/2018 18:24

Had a opportunity to interview for the same role closer to home 5 minutes away but they want me to work full time

Can you get this opportunity back?
If they wanted you that much, they may of been willing to negotiate hours/days.

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Metoodear · 10/05/2018 18:27

No they rang today they said it was a full time role dispite have 30 people on the team gutted

And I did actually ask if it was full time before I applied the lady in the office said I should be fine as their are plenty of staff

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Metoodear · 10/05/2018 18:27

Feel like I am never gonna teach my goal

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Metoodear · 10/05/2018 20:31

Dh said I did the right thing so why do I feel 😕didn’t even go Zumba tonight

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FASH84 · 10/05/2018 20:35

Because sometimes it feels really bad to put someone else first again ahead of yourself, even if they really need you, because it's ok to want to put you first sometimes too. I can't offer a solution without knowing your circumstances but you sound like you're being an amazing mum

Reaa · 11/05/2018 10:03

Could you make the full time job work?

It sounds like that is the job you really want.

Could you still attend the interview and see if you get offered the job anyway?

ArtBrut · 11/05/2018 10:04

I would find a way of making the FT job work. That is clearly what you really want. Definitely go to the interview and dazzle them, and then negotiate. And talk to your DH about what you can both do to co-parent effectively.

gabsdot · 11/05/2018 10:10

Fellow adoptive parent here. You mention that your child had attachment issues. That's so tough. Unfortunately they need you at home as much as possible. Their security is a priority. You'll have time after they grow up for your goals, but it sounds like you know that anyway.
Good luck in the future.

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