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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To ask what new mum would like?

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OnThisHill · 10/05/2018 10:09

Hi, new here and couldn't find anywhere else to post. Please bear with - or redirect?

So, my daughter is having her first baby soon. I would like to put together a box for her - I remember from 30 years ago (!) It was all about the baby. What lovely things can I put in a beautiful box, just for her?
Would love to hear what you women think....

Thank you!

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duriandurian · 10/05/2018 13:11

When friends become mothers I tend to give hand cream and some big, nice (but cheap) cotton pjs (eg from Primark or a supermarket. Sometimes also a nice water bottle with flip lid.
Given your circumstances, for which I am very sorry, maybe a lovely book - like Each Peach Pear Plum or whatever is special to your family- with a personal inscription would be a nice gift. Otherwise you can buy a box of decorative index cards which say e.g. One week old, first tooth etc..
Makes for v easy memory photos- just prop baby with self explanatory sign . I bought a set from Ocado but am sure they would be online in lots of shops.
One of my close friends gave my DD a little silver box for her baby teeth which we love.
Wishing you the very best- and your friend too.

duriandurian · 10/05/2018 13:15

So sorry, didn't read properly and didn't see that it was your Daughter. If you have the energy to find your favourite photo of her from each month (and maybe of you too) then I loved looking for family resemblances. Also you could note what your remember about the photo and anything about that stage that was easy or hard.
Very very sorry. My friend is the daughter in this scenario and they are all being so positive and really enjoying the time they have. Which I am really glad about for them as it seems like a strong and conscious decision to be as happy as they can be.
Wishing you all the very best.

ShowMeTheElf · 10/05/2018 13:18

A friend gave me a little bottle of very lovely lavender bath oil. It was so soothing and calming. It had essential oil in to help with healing. It was so lovely to have something just for me.

You sound like a lovely Mum/Granny to be OP.

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OnThisHill · 10/05/2018 13:25

@RomeoBunny - ah yes, the rubber ring! I had definitely put THAT out of my memory! Thank you.
Great idea about clothing vouchers too.
So many sweet and lovely ideas!
Xx

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RoboticSealpup · 10/05/2018 13:55

Absolutely second Lansinoh nipple cream! I don't think I could have breastfed without it. Or hand expressed, for that matter.

You sound like a really lovely mum and grandmother.

RomeoBunny · 10/05/2018 13:59

Adopt me please OP 😂

4mogirl · 10/05/2018 14:06

After giving birth, I would have loved comfy pyjamas/ slipper socks with the wee rubber bits on the feet. She can then wear these after baby comes. (Slipper socks are very comfy and non-slip for her when she is carrying the baby around safely!)
How about a drinks bottle with a straw inside for night time sips of water for after baby comes too? I tried to drink out of a normal water bottle when breastfeeding, but when you are in a specific position it was hard to move. Drinks bottle with a straw means she can drink without moving her head/spilling.
These gifts don’t necessarily scream ‘baby gift’ but these will be useful things for after the baby is here. An amazon voucher would be amazing also, there’s so many things you don’t even think you need but then realise you would love to have, when you have a baby, so amazon could help with that. Maybe flip flops to wear in the shower in hospital too. Hope his helps.

Forgottencoffee · 10/05/2018 14:08

When I had my LO my mum bought me and DH some cups that said mummy and daddy on them, I love them!

I would have also loved some nice body washes/creams and comfy pyjamas, just anything I could have used when I finally got some 'me time' and it's always nice to use new things!

I'd also give her the gifts after she has had the baby. She's not likely to get a lot of attention once LO is here so it's nice know someone is thinking about you.
I can remember my gran calling me after I had my LO asking me how I was and she said it's easy to get caught up in the joy of a new baby and forget about what the new mums have gone through. It really meant a lot to me.

I would have been thrilled at a little gift box full of little treats for myself; you are a wonderful mummy.

SchrodingersCatepillar · 10/05/2018 14:11

What a lovely Mummy you are. I’m so sorry to hear your news.

I love to give new Mums a little package with the things they couldn’t have during pregnancy: lovely cheeses, cured meat, champagne etc.

I like your idea for a box for baby, meminio do gorgeous (but expensive) pink leather suitcases for use as memory boxes.

Spam88 · 10/05/2018 14:48

On breast pads, lansinoh were the only ones I got on with. Cheaper ones made me really sore and the washable ones stuck to my nipples 😣

Neverwrestlewithapig · 10/05/2018 16:06

Similar to the above poster’s idea, you might like to consider a journal like one of these: www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1907048464/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_26f9AbDA6N27H?tag=mumsnetforum-21

bobstersmum · 10/05/2018 19:08

Oh op! I have just read your update how terribly sad! I do hope you are ok I really do!
As someone mentioned letters for every major event would be a lovely idea and maybe a little trinket or jewellery to go with. Wishing you all the very very best x

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OnThisHill · 10/05/2018 21:30

Dear All

Thank you so very much for all your wonderful suggestions, some of which I would never have thought or even known about! I'd best get my debit card out! Really looking forward to making up new mummy's box! Thank you and I hope it will help new mum!

And thank you also for some more super suggestions for baby too! She doesn't have the other grandparents either, so I would like to do something to try and 'be there' for her. It won't be the same of course but still......
Thank you for your kind words, they made me well up and they really mean a lot. You Mumsnetters really are a wonderful bunch!

All of you, thank you, truly.x

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Treaclepie19 · 10/05/2018 21:34

I'm so sorry OP
You sound so lovely and caring. I'm sure your daughter will love her new baby box.

Fruitcorner123 · 10/05/2018 21:45

So sorry to hear your news. i second the luxurious toiletries for mum and if she likes reading then a nice book. My friend gave me two books which were fairly easy reading and romantic and happy which is all I could manage while breastfeeding in the middle of the night! Or a voucher for a massage/hairdressing, some special chocs. Also given your circumstances I think something for her from you as a keepsake would be lovely. A framed photo of the two of you or an album with some pics of your favourite memories?

For the little one a journal as pp has said would be fab. A photo album too with some info about you and your childhood and your interests etc I wish I knew more about my grandads and would love to have something like this. You could even make her a little video. Also a book or framed picture or something that can be personalised or inscribed from you. Something that she can always keep.

What a lovely idea for a thing to do will.be praying that you have lots of time to spend cherishing your baby granddaughter

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