AIBU to be hurt by this?

[UmbridgeD]

My DM always likes to look good to other people. My mother has suggested the following: My cousin’s wife had their first child last month. My mum suggested a baby welcome bbq this weekend.

‘A first baby is special and we should celebrate with a little family get together.’ Fine.

But she never did this for me. She visited me at home, not hospital, even though she lives locally and I didn’t get any sort of party. Is it childish to be hurt by this?

I would be hurt by that - YANBU. No advice but didn't want to read and run!

I would have asked her where her welcome bbq was for dc as they are her first gc right!

Not her first gc. I know exactly what she would say if I said ‘what about me’?
‘Oh, don’t be so ridiculous, anyway nephew’s wife doesn’t have family nearby.’

The thing is though she sees relations who live abroad more than she sees us. She likes to project a certain image but can’t be bothered with actually turning up or phoning .

Mother sounds a bit narcissistic.......

Your right to be upset. But like you said it’s a want by her to look good. She doesn’t sound like she cares about feelings :(