Stuck in the middle of waring neighbours

[BeeFamily]

Help!

I live in a rented house split into four flats. One is empty.
The sound proofing is awful in the flats. I've been in the empty flat and you could hear conversation clearly of those above.

Neighbour 1 has always been an issue with noise. We are out of the house most of the week apart from a few hours in the evening and all weekend and my children are not small so no running around. She complained about children the day she moved in (they weren't even home she just wasn't amused I had them and commented about kids thudding around) She asked me to take them out when she is on nights, complained to other people how we walk noisily (barefoot carpeted and rugs) and if we drop anything. A bed slat once slipped when we were assembling it in the middle of the day and we had complaints.

Neighbour 2 moved in a month ago and are very very young so we have music and lots of mates over etc. In fairness they have been asked to turn it down and have.

Neighbour 1 is going batshit. They are too noisy on the stairs, too noisy in the drive way, too noisy talking. Threatening to bang on the door all the time.

Neighbour 2 is annoyed at being told what to do and in true 19 year old style is throwing a hissy fit,making more noise and stupid noises on the stairs.

And I'm stuck in the middle trying to stay out of it but getting disturbed by both.

Aibu to be utterly fed up.

I would move when your tenancy is up if that's possible. Couldn't be doing with that nonsense. Neighbour 1 sounds wholly unreasonable and needs to move to a caravan in the middle of a field.

From my experience of neighbours and noise. If they are going to whinge, they will always find something. I think some people are over sensitive to noise.

We have a ndn who has issues with noise and isn't afraid to complain, still on friendly terms at the moment, not sure how long we can keep bending over backwards to keep them happy before DH snaps - they make a lot of noise themselves (musical instruments)

I can see both neighbours points, but ultimately I don't think Neighbour 1 is ever going to be completely happy - she's in a flat fgs. There is guaranteed to be breakthrough noise, and as long as you or other neighbour aren't being antisocial with the noise there's not much she can do to stop you. You are paying to live there too.

Maybe an informal get together, residents meeting? Address her concerns, whilst telling her that you aren't going to bend over backwards to please her. At least you'll be on the same page - at the moment she's complaining and mostly getting what she wants, therefore the expectation for you and neighbour 2 to do as she wants is there.

The ironic thing is neighbour 1 makes shit loads of noise. I've never heard anyone noisier than her when cleaning. She literally rams stuff into the walls!
I can hear her TV loudly every night too.
She wakes me up when she is on earlier.
She slams her doors.

Neighbour 2 is noisy as hell too. Had me up at three am with mates running up and down the stairs,making stupid noises and banging the door.

I'm trying to move!