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Should I buy my friend's kids a present this year?

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starsandstuff · 09/05/2018 16:17

A friend has DT who turn 17 tomorrow. I am godmother to one, so have always bought both kids presents for birthday and Christmas as I felt bad buying one without the other. I don't actually really see the kids. I see my friend a couple of times a year - we live in different towns but it's a "no time has passed" friendship when we see each other, but I only see her kids maybe when I'm calling to drop off presents at Christmas. Last couple of birthdays I've just sent cards with gift vouchers. I'm currently both skint and short of time, and though I kept remembering about their birthday last week, I've just realised it's too late to send them something in time for tomorrow.

I'm not sure which is most U:

  • text my friend and say sorry I didn't get around to organising a gift this year and wish them a happy birthday (not sure if this will offend her)
  • send something today and just apologise for the lateness (I have a family event this weekend which is costing me a fortune and as it's 2 I can't really get away with spending less than £50 which I don't really have)
  • just not mention it and let it pass as I don't buy birthday presents for any other friend's kids (this might annoy her more and she'll think I just forgot)
  • other option I'm not seeing?

To be clear she's never asked me for a gift, although I don't remember her ever saying not to buy them (though why would she?). They'll be turning 18 next year so I'll obviously get something for that, so do I just let this year slide or suck it up as it's only the second last one anyway as I won't be buying when they're adults?

OP posts:
penguinsandpanda · 09/05/2018 16:22

I think you can get instant gift vouchers digital ones you can e-mail if you want to get something for tomorrow.

Hisnamesblaine · 09/05/2018 16:25

Voucher each for a tenner? Clothes shop maybe? Then as you said give one final gift next year and be done with it.

starsandstuff · 09/05/2018 20:59

Thanks - I hadn't thought of e-vouchers. I txt my friend to ask for their email addresses so I could send them some, but she actually replied saying not to worry about it, bless her! Cheers.

OP posts:
Ginger1982 · 09/05/2018 21:01

Yeah Groupon and itison etc allow you to gift vouchers by email.

penguinsandpanda · 09/05/2018 21:07

That's good, problem solved.😎

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