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AIBU to have chopping board rage?

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Usernamqwerty · 09/05/2018 12:44

My FIL recently came to stay for 3 days. He used the chopping board every day to prepare food (sandwich, salad etc) but never bothered to clean it afterwards, just left it on the side, complete with dirty cutlery on top :'(

It cheesed me off so I washed it up every day he was here. Am not particularly fastidious about cleanliness, but am pregnant and any kind of food mess just makes me want to heave :-(

He's now left and gone home. I walk in the kitchen and there is the sodding chopping board, all messy with food again!!! Grrrr...

AIBU to ask a guest coming and staying in my home to clean up after themselves? (I always do when I am staying in his home!).

Thanks!

OP posts:
Aprilmightbemynewname · 09/05/2018 12:46

Find pen.
Draw picnic of fil on chopping board.
Chop (vent) away.

Trinity66 · 09/05/2018 12:49

Clearly he's used to having someone clean up after him tut tut

SapphireSeptember · 09/05/2018 12:49

Next time you go round his house, leave a mess and see how he likes it! And then tell him you want him to clean up after himself next time he stays.

Averyyounggrandmaofsix · 09/05/2018 16:58

I'm impressed he made his own food!

PanPanPanPing · 09/05/2018 17:16

Buy him one of these chopping board sets www.amazon.co.uk/Hygiplas-Chopping-Board-6xBoards-Chart/dp/B002B7GMQ6/ref=sr_1_2?keywords=Chopping+board+sets&tag=mumsnetforum-21&ie=UTF8&qid=1525882404&sr=8-2 for Christnas or his birthday, whichever is sooner! Plus a bottle of Fairy Liquid!

WorraLiberty · 09/05/2018 17:18

Why didn't you just ask him to clean it after himself? Confused

PalePinkSwan · 09/05/2018 17:29

I don’t think it’s normal to expect guests to do the washing up tbh. If you want him to, you’ll have to tell him, as that’s unusual.

halfwitpicker · 09/05/2018 17:32

Just tell him to tidy up.

At least he's chopping his own stuff, I suppose.

AnneProtheroe · 09/05/2018 17:32

Buy him one of these chopping board sets for Christnas or his birthday, whichever is sooner! Plus a bottle of Fairy Liquid!

Are these boards self cleaning and put themselves away then? Hmm

Racecardriver · 09/05/2018 17:34

My husband does this. I tell him off every time. To be fair c it mostly bairns when he is tired. My FIL came to stay with us once. He destroyed my entire kitchen. Every single surface was covered. I told him to leave after the days. It is one thing to do it in your own home but to do something like that as a guest is unacceptable.

MismatchedPJs · 09/05/2018 17:47

I'm quite impressed he did his own food and tidied his plate away afterwards!

You'd hate our house, we leave the breakfast things by the sink and deal with them when we get home from work.

PanPanPanPing · 09/05/2018 18:02

"Are these boards self cleaning and put themselves away then? hmm"

Of course not, that's why I suggested - very tongue in cheek, although I guess you didn't actually get the joke - that the OP buys her FIL a set of chopping boards plus a bottle of WUL ... as something of a humorous hint to him that, hey ho, these things don't put themselves away and, hey ho, they do need to be washed after they've been used. But ... hey ho!

AnneProtheroe · 09/05/2018 18:06

although I guess you didn't actually get the joke

No dear, that wasn't a joke. It would probably sail right over PIL's head and he would wonder why he was being given a gift like that. Jokes are usually funny or at least witty. Your inane comment was neither.

SluttyButty · 09/05/2018 18:10

When I met my husband he was like this, I taught him that I wasn't the skivvy that tidied up his mess.

PanPanPanPing · 09/05/2018 18:11

Well, it's up to the OP whether she sees the funny side of it. Either way, it's not my problem - dear.

eggcellent · 09/05/2018 18:24

YABU to be fuming if you didn't even mention it to him.

Rainydaydog · 09/05/2018 18:31

If he was a guest I had invited, I would normally be extra hospitable. If you were doing him a favour by letting him stay I'd expect him to do a bit more but still if it was just a short visit I'd be happy to do a little washing up or anything like that. If it was a long stay I would have to ask the guest to pull their weight as I just wouldn't manage.

Aridane · 09/05/2018 18:41

Wouldn’t be bothered -but the. I tend to put stuff on the side and load in the dishwasher as and when

Original poster
Usernamqwerty · 09/05/2018 20:46

Thanks all! He lives alone, so normally leaves it like that for a couple of days Shock (gross).

I'll try and be more assertive next time!

Am heavily pregnant with a toddler so would prefer to make life as easy as possible at the moment Wink

OP posts:
TheHonGalahadThreepwood · 09/05/2018 21:11

I wouldn't expect a guest to continually wash up after themselves unless they were creating huge amounts of mess. A single chopping board used to make a sandwich and a bit of cutlery left on top of it doesn't sound like a serious issue. Why not just ask him to scrape off any actual food remnants into the bin so as not to attract flies (or disgust you while you're pregnant) and then leave it by the sink ready to be added to the next load of washing up?

Aridane · 09/05/2018 22:05

He lives alone, so normally leaves it like that for a couple of days shock (gross).

Ahem - yep, that’s me Grin

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