Partner bad mouthing me to his family

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I broke up with my partner for about 2 weeks two weeks ago. We're now back together but I could sense something was different. I've been asking him since we reunited if he's gone back and told his family things about me/from my past, he lied straight to my face time after time.

Last night he was showing me messages from his sister. As I was reading, a new one came through telling him to sort his life out and stop focusing on women especially ones who are no good for him and his daughter.

I knew he was lying. I asked him about it and he finally admitted it. He said he was angry and hurt I left him so had a rant and told his family things about me and things from my past that I told him in confidence. Some of my deepest secrets I tell no one!

I'm mortified that people know things about me and I'm upset that he's ruined the relationship I had with his family.

He insists he'll fix it (I don't know how) but he doesn't understand that he can't. The damage has been done.

I'm so hurt. I don't know what to do about the relationship. I can't trust him now. I can't go round to his family events. I love his family as I don't get along with mine and finally felt like I found somewhere I belong and now he's taken them away from me.

I get that people need to rant but to tell them those things about me I find hard accept and I feel like he was just being nasty.

AIBU? Am I overreacting? What would you do?

You’re not overreacting, it was a very hurtful breach of trust.
There a big difference between ranting and breaking confidence, which is what he’s done, and to compound it he then lied.

I couldn’t stay with someone who had betrayed my trust that way.

He's broken the trust.

Whilst most people have a rant every now and then, they don't break a confidence. He's an arse and you'll have to weigh all up about whether to stay with him or not.

That would finish it for me, he broke your trust, kept lying about it, would still be lying about it, obviously put a shitty slant on what he told people if he is getting messages like that, you can never confide in him again, so all that coupled with the other reasons you originally left him for, no thanks, I'd be out

I'm so pissed off I don't know what to do

What’s done is done. They know. He told them to try and make you look like the bad guy in the break up story.

Lack of intelligence I’d say!

How bad was the secret?