To think saying ‘have a drink’ to someone whilst they’re having a coughing fit is annoying?

[Haudyerwheesht]

Dh always does this. Kids and I have asthma and he doesn’t so we tend to cough more than him and sometimes will have quite a ‘bout’ of coughing. He invariably says in an annoyed and long suffering voice ‘can’t you just have a drink ?’ How can I have a drink when I’m still coughing?? Even when dc had whooping cough and was literally turning blue dh would say ‘have a drink’ and keep on saying it whilst the coughing continued.

I know it’s petty, I know it doesn’t matter but ffs we’ve been together 18 years and I swear if he tells me to have a drink ONE MORE FUCKING TIME whilst I am still coughing I am going to lose the plot.

Calm down love. I'll pop the kettle on.

pats OP on head

DH’s mother does this, she starts giving you the third degree about why you are coughing... while you are fucking coughing!
‘Ooh what have you eaten’
‘Has it gone down the wrong way’
‘Do you want a drink’

I’m with you OP

Go and have a drink. If you can’t find it, you’ll always find it in the last place you look.

My mum says breathe or you die..

Maybe I will have a drink....of vodka! Seriously it’s kind of annoyed me for a while especially during the whooping cough debacle but tonight it has really irritated the hell out of me! Definitely an old married couple type of grievance!

@user1481271611 accurate

Drives me mad, too. But I'm ashamed to say that I've caught myself saying it to the kids.

Does seem to help sometimes - distracts then from a coughing fit and gives them a break.

I suffer with nasal congestion due to deviated septum. I sniff a lot but not because my nose needs blowing. My husband constantly tells me to blow my nose but I must have told him millions of times that there is nothing to blow out. So irritating! I'm saving for a nose job to correct it.

Why not just let them cough, while keeping a rough eye on them for lack of breathing etc?