To wonder why MNetters all seem to have such terrible in-laws?

[jedediah]

In real life, I don't know anybody who wouldn't trust their own parents or their dp's parents to look after their children. I don't know anyone who has ever gone "NC" with their parents or in-laws.

Yet on MN a seemingly disproportionate number of posters say that their parents or more often in laws are emotionally abusive and they would never let them be with their children unsupervised or sometimes at all.

Does anyone else find all these grandparent-bashing threads strange and rather sad?

It's a haven for those of us with terrible in law issues.

Although reddit is supposed to be better. I have no doubt there are millions of wondeful in law relationships out there. In real life its pretty even spilt.

I didn’t see my maternal gran after the age of 4. Couldn’t say with confidence any kids of mine will know my dad - but this doesn’t really come up in conversation. You probably know someone who is NC with a family member maybe just not a close friend. Its not strange or sad not to know your grandparents if you have other good people in your life.
TBH when I do hear about people’s families I often wonder why more people aren’t NC - feeling a grudging obligation to see your family is hardly worth it imo.

People ask for advice here, you don't need advice when relationships are going well.

Yes pingu I have a few people even friends I know that tolerate appalling treatment. Just because it's a relative treating them that way they put up with it.

So many single parents dealing with abusive or deadbeat NRPs are supported here. What happens when the child becomes a parent to make the NRP a hard done by grandparent?
So many people are encouraged to say "No that doesn't work for me" to random CF. What happens to make the CF a hard done by grandparent?

Really? Quick straw poll amongst friends and crazy seems to be the default for 80% of inlaws.

I did date a chap years ago and I LOVED his Mum, we had tonnes in common and I'd happily hang out with her without him, in retrospect she was significantly nicer than her son! Ten years on we still swap the odd message via social media!

It's like the relationships board, it's only when things are bad that people post for advice or to vent etc.

beaten to it - people with no problems and everything hunky dory don't tend to start threads as they don't need the advice!