To phone the police ?

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Sorry didn’t know where to post , trying not to be to outing over the weekend a man had a dispute with his girlfriend which resulted in her running into my house which he followed and smashed my house up he was clearly off his face I was terrified and hid when someone sent the police , this man is known to me he’s dangerous and violent the next day he knocked on the door promised to pay for the damage and off he went , the police did a follow up check and I said I didn’t want to make a complaint. Now said man has decided that I am a grass and won’t pay , sorry for the rambling I just don’t know what to do and really need some advice .

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Thank you for even taking the time to listen I feel so much better just even writing it down xx

I’m so glad and you’re very welcome

I'm sorry but I can't believe that the OP has stated this dangerous and violent man who smashed her house up and has wrongly accused her of calling the police the first time around when OP didn't and now the advice is to call the police because he thinks OP is a grass. Are you all crazy? Maybe it's the areas I have lived in but if, and this is a very big if, the police actually bother to go around and talk to the man, where do you think that will leave OP?

Advice about contacting the Housing Officer is sensible.

Who called the police at the time? If a third party called them at the time it is likely that call will be recorded and that call will evidence what happened. If they left their name they may agree to be a witness.

He thinks she’s called the police anyway, so actually doing it isn’t going to change anything!
I’ve lived in areas like that too, still kick about in my old area and well know what it’s like.

But equally the fuck should a bullying big bastard be able to smash up a perfect stranger’s house, leave her distressed, scared and out of pocket with no consequences at all.

The police can put a marker on the address which will mean if anything happens they respond quicker, I think.

I live in HA and mine have really good support for issues like this. I think you'll find that they will support you and help you with what you need to do next. When you ring, explain, insist that you are forwarded to the right team. If he is also their Tennant, they'll take measures. I'm sorry these people have invaded your life. Speaking as someone who got housed escaping some pretty extreme domestic violence, I'd say that you do not have to feel responsible for anything except repairing and protecting yourself.

Please speak to your housing officer. I work for a HA and there is a lot of support for things like this. At least see what your options are

@Smeddum
He thinks she’s called the police anyway, so actually doing it isn’t going to change anything!
I’ve lived in areas like that too, still kick about in my old area and well know what it’s like.

But equally the fuck should a bullying big bastard be able to smash up a perfect stranger’s house, leave her distressed, scared and out of pocket with no consequences at all.

I completely agree with you, especially your last paragraph, but the OP has said that he was "off his face" either on alcohol or drugs, smashed their house up and is 'known' to them, to which I took meaning to be they are 'notorious' in OP's area for stuff like this. Yes it is completely wrong that OP should suffer like this but they share a common area (garden) with this violent man. There could be be serious repercussions for OP if the man wrongly thinks OP reported for a second time. Not sure what areas you grew up in but putting lit fireworks through letterboxes or front doors getting kicked in wasn't seen as unusual for 'grasses'. Some of the advice here isn't practical, though it seems sensible, I suppose where you come from and how safe your area is. In some of the places I have lived, telling someone to contact the police is the worst bit of advice you could give someone in OP's current situation.

Repeat the advice of contacting Housing Officer.

I know fine about what it’s like in an area like that. We had to move because we were terrorised by an untouchable family on our own estate, and it was either that or I would get arrested for assault!

OP I’d go with the advice about the HA.

Have you cleaned everything up? Bit far fetched but as far as them denying it goes there could be finger prints around- thinking if he picked up tv & threw it?
It’s a difficult situation & I understand you feel threatened. But he’s a bully & is intimidating you to get away with this, chances are he’s also bullying his girlfriend & she is also scared.
could you talk to the police without pressing charges or them visiting, ie explain the situation & what could they do to help & then decide if it’s worth it?

Exactly so surely you wouldn’t agree with the advice to go to the police who would exacerbate the whole situation @Smeddum !?

@MissionItsPossible I don’t really see how it’s possible to exacerbate it! OP is frightened in her own home, has had her house smashed up and he’s already threatening her.

I think they are taking advantage and probabily know you are in a tight position. You need to go ahead and tell the police. They are responsible and need to pay up. Dont be frightened by them, let the police know about the threats.
HA can help you move if you feel threatened and unsafe but it might take a while though.