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AIBU?

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Throwing their door mat at their door.

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Twounder1 · 08/05/2018 18:24

So my stepdad bought me a really nice doormat. I didn't think you could call a doormat nice, but nevertheless, it's a decent one. I'm getting fed up of people rubbing mud on my beige carpet so the doormat solved this problem.

Anyway, got home today and my doormat was still in place.. Went to go to the shop about an hour after and our matts had been swapped. Their bird shit covered mat was neatly placed in front of my door and our nice new one was neatly in front of theirs.
So I swapped then back.

Got back from the shop 20 mins later. Doormats swapped again! Absolute cheek!

So I threw their doormat at their front door and took ours in.
Im sick of it. I took my bins out yesterday and we have to go through a gully as they're terraced houses and all their black bags full of god knows what that are attracting rats were right in front of my gate. I couldn't get the bins out and dp had to move them. I still had room in my bin so I put a few bags in for them.

I can't even have a doormat by the looks of it 🙄

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balsamicbarbara · 08/05/2018 19:45

Sounds like they have young children. Maybe it was the children who did this as a prank.

SideOrderofSprouts · 08/05/2018 19:46

Can I ask your ladies advice quickly? Neighbours have a huge bouncy castle blown up now. The type at fun fairs. Huge generator etc. Music is so loud too. My kids just aren't sleeping. Any advice?

An airsoft rifle? At the bouncy castle obviously...

AlonsosLeftPinky · 08/05/2018 19:50

I think it's really ok to be making noise at this time.

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Twounder1 · 08/05/2018 19:54

Different neighbours with the bouncy castle. Yes, they are well within their rights until 11pm as far as noise pollution is concerned. But its ridiculous. Its like they're having a rave/funfair outside. We went over and even sent a letter to these before. Dp just knocked an no answer so we posted a letter

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auntyflonono · 08/05/2018 19:56

Kill them with kindness: buy two matching ones, one each!

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Twounder1 · 08/05/2018 19:57

The mat was placed nearly twice though.
Before when they had their new one (which is now their shitty one) their ripped up old matt was thrown on our garden.

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Twounder1 · 08/05/2018 19:58

I would. I'd even buy them one if I had the money bloody spare. They have money but struggle in other ways. Son Is severly disabled, that's why I put some of their bags in my bin, may or may not have been intentional to cause me problems in front of my gate, I doubt it was intentional. I've done nothing to them. But this is ridiculous.

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Mountainsoutofmolehills · 08/05/2018 20:09

No advice until it's 11pm.

Call the council re: the rats.

And sounds like you need to move, or make friends with your enemies.

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Twounder1 · 08/05/2018 20:18

I'm decent to all of them. We wrote a letter asking kindly not to stop but to keep the noise down.

He's literally came knocking at our door screaming at us that he didn't appreciate it and we are being unreasonable. Yes. I guess do because of the law.
We asked him kindly. He told us he's dealt with loud noise with babies before (bear it in mind our kids are screaming) and dp went mental by this point and told him to be a decent human being and at least turn the music down. Not off. Down. Kindly.

So the neighbour got aggressive and threatened to hit dp whilst he's holding our newborn ds. We told him we are seeing his landlord tomorrow and slammed the door as he was coming towards dp.

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Mivery · 08/05/2018 20:23

Report them, they're legitimately stealing your property.

silkpyjamasallday · 08/05/2018 20:35

The mat stealing can be solved by keeping it inside, you shouldn’t have to but unfortunately you live next door to pretty brazen thieves. And given the violent reaction of the bouncy castle neighbour I think it would be best to put up and shut up until you can move or they can and probably will make your lives miserable. Calling police/landlords isn’t really going to do anything other than fan the flames, in your position I’d be looking to move ASAP. I don’t think you were reasonable in asking them to turn the music down so early, I do understand it’s stressful when babies won’t sleep, presumably it’s not a regular thing that they have big parties and as a one off I don’t think it’s worth complaining. Clearly not the sort of people who would take notice anyway. It sounds really shit OP, I’m sorry sadly there’s not much you can do bar looking for a new place to live.

mzcracker · 08/05/2018 20:48

I've heard it all now! Cheeky fuckers. Did they think you wouldn't notice?

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Twounder1 · 08/05/2018 20:54

The bouncy castle incident has been happening a while. Last summer dd was kept up a lot as a newborn because of it. We did phone 101 after they failed to take it down after 11pm. Police went over. Its reoccurring.
I feel sad as this is my family home. A beautiful house and now we feel we have to move.

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Racecardriver · 08/05/2018 20:59

Bouncy castle neighbour has committed common assault. Call up the police to log it.

Lorddenning1 · 08/05/2018 21:32

@Florene

dancinfeet · 08/05/2018 22:26

Can you put a big sign under the mat so that when they lift it up- 'stop stealing my doormat you cheeky twats!!'

Whether it will stop them though - they sound completely unhinged

2andcountingtodate · 09/05/2018 07:52

You need to call 101 again to log his threat to hit you husband when holding your baby. His lack of control and concern for a new born would worry me for all my kids.

I'd also keep a diary including the mat incident with pictures if possible. You can give their landlord the crime reference.

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Twounder1 · 09/05/2018 08:51

I'm really frightened now, I wish I'd have just let them carry on! I'm worried he will damage my property or make our lives hell now. When dp told him he will be seeing his landlord he ran off and turned it all off. So I'm guessing it's still rented?
I'm giving them one more chance (mainly due to fear) but I want no trouble. Its not like I asked them to turn it all off. I just wanted it quiet enough to get my kids asleep. We contacted DP's uncle who's a police man and again, we need to apparently record the audio is it happens again and the bouncy castle and keep track of times but literally nothing we could do. I've had it living here. Thieving doormat lowlifes next door and a knobhead the other side.
In summer the bouncy castle will be up til 1am like last year so I will see what happens.

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2andcountingtodate · 09/05/2018 19:21

Just keep a log and flag the threats with 101 OP. If he ran off then he's just a coward, who tries to throw their weight around.

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Twounder1 · 09/05/2018 19:42

It's really worried me. Dp doesn't seem fazed but I want to move now :(

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2andcountingtodate · 09/05/2018 19:55

It's a horrible anxious feeling when you just don't know isn't It? Best to log it and see what happens. They may well chill out but sadly shitty neighbours can escalate again so just log everything and complain to the landlord where you need to.

I feel for you OP. I had a nightmare neighbour who terrorised us. It made us both very ill and anxious. Hopefully yours is a coward and you just need to be firm.so far it looks positive for that

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