To be gut-gnawingly anxious over DD's party RSVPs

[scampimom]

I get that my DD's party is not the social highlight of the calendar. But we've gone to the expense of hiring a hall and an entertainer for her 5th birthday in a couple of weeks. 8 people have RSVPed, some coming, some not. Which leaves about 10 who have not responded AT ALL.

I'm not bothered in terms of is it rude yadda yadda, but my GOD I am so teary and anxious and sad about the idea of so few kids coming to her party! There'll be about 5 there at the last count!

I'm BU aren't I? Or will she be really sad?

A couple of weeks? Plenty of time still for RSVP's. Did you put a reply by date on there?

She is five so she really won’t care and will enjoy it whatever the day brings.
I would be inviting extras though. Family, friends and neighbours etc.
Mental note for next year to keep to something small that expands rather than the other way around.
Follow up on as many as you can to get an idea.
You could also switch to a house party too, then the hall won’t seem so big.
She will have a great day, lots of presents, cake and fun. Keep your worried to yourself and just keep everything upbeat, these things have a habit of working out fine.

Parties send me over the edge too OP, I'm generally quite a calm, measured person. Can you just invite a few more?

Sorry for typos too sunny to type

Loads more will reply, it’s ages away yet. DS’s party is on Fri, I got 2 replies today. Can you text to remind people?

I feel your pain. My DD asked her whole class and she has 5 coming - now don’t get me wrong I’m super glad those 5 are coming and being perfectly honest a big group would overwhelm her but I’m just scared she’ll end up thinking the rest don’t like her especially as they haven’t given a reason so I can’t say to her “X didn’t come because they were sick/visiting grandma/whatever”
The whole thing is nerve wracking 😂😂😂

My DRs party on saturday, RSVP date was set for last friday, 4 out of 25 people have RSVP'd.

But annoying but my AD will have fun whatever so will just have to see what the day brings.

Wow my phone didn't like any of that.

*my DD 's party

I'm not normally a complete emotional wreck, it's just something about the idea of no-one coming to a party that kills me.

Maybe I'm just hormonal or something. I'm not sure how to follow up some of the people, because there is a good chance DD lost the invitations or gave them to random people, and I don't have numbers for many of the parents. Would it be really weird to give some spares to DD's teacher to give out? She's not paid to be a social secretary, but she is at least an adult in a room full of tiny nutters with no sense and an attention span of an ooh look a shiny thing

You put a 4 year old in charge of distributing her own party invitations? Why?

Teachers generally won't do this unless you have invited every child in the class.

It's not just you! So stressful.
In the end I went to the year WhatsApp group to scan for people's phone numbers and sent them a cheery text saying that DD would love to see [child] at her party at X time in X place on x date and would he/she be able to join us? It caught the ones who'd lost the invite and most people responded. For the last few, I asked DD to ask the kids at school if they would be able to come as her mum was making party bags and they'd get left out. Final stragglers came in when I attended a rare drop off and pickup and chased them.

So annoying! But don't worry, even if it's three kids, she'll have fun and get more 1-1 to the entertainer, so long as you don't show your stress

Have you invited the whole class? If not do invites again and give them to the teacher to hand out. I had 13 unexpected guests turn up to the last party I did so some may just turn up. Also is there a year/class Facebook group, you could ask in there about rsvps

Her party isn’t for a couple of weeks.
When I held a party for my dd’s 5th we invited the whole class, with a week to go we had 5 replies out of 24, on the day I think there were only 2 children who didn’t show and a few who hadn’t bothered answering attended, which made for a busy day as I invited a few other children thinking that it might just be my dd and 5 close friends!