Wedding evening reception aibu

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It’s 5 hours away by public transport and on a Saturday night. I rsvpd without checking. Only invited to the evening, the bride is a very old but distant childhood friend. Free calling in the woods after. How will I even get there!!

*free camping

“Sorry but id rather take a cheese grater to my face than attend your wedding”

Or

“Change in circumstances will prevent me attending here’s a £20 JL voucher?”

"Free camping in the woods"! After a 5 hr journey for just the evening reception? It would be a no from me!

I agree with Redtartanshoes.

I wouldnt be travelling 5 hours to camp in woods either!

I will send them something nice in the post but don’t know how to rescind my invite!

Rescind my acceptance sorry - I’m not invited to hen do etc obviously and sibling of mine going to hen do, church ceremony and got a room at local cottage. And is hilariously refusing to let me share 😂

Just let her know that you won't be able to attend after all. Getting the numbers of guests coming to the evening do isn't as crucial as knowing how many are going to the ceremony and wedding breakfast, so it shouldn't be a problem.

I would just be honest. Text her that you have realised the travel issue and unfortunately you are unable to attend. Wish her a fabulous day and pop something in the post.

Just ring her or email her. It's not rocket science!

Just say that you are sorry, but you have looked into the transport options and it isn't, after all, feasible. Not at all unreasonable not to go. Did you think you were going to the whole thing when you accepted?

Everyone has different opinions about evening invitations but when DH and I got married, we decided that it was only polite to extend them to people living withing a shortish taxi ride from the venue. Otherwise, it was a day invitation or nothing - unless you're offering Beyonce and a food festival in the evening you can't really expect people to travel long distances.

It's not going to make a huge difference to her catering numbers, so if you don't want to go now, just send a note explaining some unavoidable family/work commitment's arisen and you're so sorry but you won't be able to make it. And send her a JL voucher which will be a snip compared to the travel costs of getting there!

I wouldn't go but wouldnt share my room in the cottage either.

It's a bit strange to invite people to an evening reception unless they live quite close to the venue.

It is right! I had assumed I was going to the day but had a closer look and it appears not. Can someone help me word it? It’s in 2 and a half months time, and I rsvp’d around a month ago

It’s also in the middle of NOWHERE. Think deserted Scottish field. Very beautiful and picturesque but I don’t drive and don’t see any way I can make it really. Public transport would involve about five changeable

It's not a real invite, they are amazed you said yes, no doubt. They will be relieved when you rescind.

I'd go for

"Please accept my apologies but I hadn't realised when I originally RSVPed that I had already committed to attend a family function on that day so will no longer be able to come".

Send a card and voucher.

Job done.