To think we should be allowed to pull up our NDN’s stupid tree!!

[QueenofmyPrinces]

I live in a crescent and there are about 5 of us who have gardens that all kind of back on to one another.

In one of these gardens is a huge tree that is a total PITA! It’s at the end of their garden and some of it hangs over in to ours.

All winter our entire decking area and the lawn of our garden are COVERED in dead leaves that fall from the stupid tree that we have to go and rake up every day, and then every summer our entire garden is covered in bloody annoying soggy blossom petals and stuff which makes it looks awful and so messy.

We’ve had to buy one of those leaf blower/hoover type things because it’s the only way we can keep on top of it and we can’t actually play out in our garden with the toddler/baby until we’ve hoovered up all the crap that falls from their tree.

Last summer we looked in to our rights and as a result we hacked off all the branches that overhang our garden but it doesn’t solve anything because the other 90% of the tree still exists and its leaves and soggy blossom bits are still blown all over our decking/lawn every bloody day.

I can’t even explain how pissed off I am by it and every year the problem just gets worse as the tree gets bigger and bigger.

A few of the other surrounding neighbours have voiced their anger too because their gardens suffer that same way ours does and two of the neighbours gardens are practically in the shade all day because the big tree blocks the sunlight out.

AIBU to think that surely there’s something more we can do? Can a house owner be forced to have a massive tree removed if it impacts on everyone else?

Don't be so silly OP

I will take a photo of the tree later.

I only mentioned how dense it was in terms of blocking out the opposing housing because a previous poster said cherry tree branches are quite sparse (or something to that effect) so couldn’t block our son.

I don’t want to put my baby in a playpen in the garden - what’s the point of that? I want him to be able to crawl around in the grass and enjoy being in the garden.

typo correction - I meant someone said the tree couldn’t block out the sun.

When I sit in my garden I want to be able to just relax and watch my children play - not have to be chasing the baby round and taking pink petals out his mouth every 2 seconds. It honestly puts me off going outside because it’s such a pain in the arse following him round and taking it off him

Removing the tree debris won't mean that you can relax and stop chasing your baby around the garden, OP! If it weren't petals he was putting in his mouth it would be something else. Worms? Hedgehog poo? Bumble bees? Grass? Daisies? The occasional birds' feather? Mud? Bits of broken birds' eggs?

Oh, I feel for you OP. My PIL had this with their NDN, the hole cul-de-sac asked the owners of the tree to get rid of it and they never did until my IL moved out. Spiteful. Good luck with your case.

If it weren't petals he was putting in his mouth it would be something else. Worms? Hedgehog poo? Bumble bees? Grass? Daisies? The occasional birds' feather? Mud? Bits of broken birds' eggs?

Or, in my son's case, pebbles and snails! The snail was all frothy, yuk.

Tees are vital - they oxegenate the atmosphere and without trees there would be nothing for living things to breathe. It's a tragedy that you find fallen blossom so offensive - I think it looks beautiful, ad how long does it take to sweep up? Most of it blows away. I am so glad you are not my neighbour as chopping down trees seems sacrilege to me when they give air, shade, and beauty. none of which, sadly, you seem to appreciate.

Move! To a flat in the middle of a city. Check carefully for anything green before you do...

And let him eat the fucking petals. My kids have eaten worms and snails. They're still here!

Been thinking the same @greathat

All my 3 ate nature... blossom isn’t poisonous!! One of mine would try to eat sand when I took him to the beach at a crawling age! He’d spit and splutter and then try again!

Kids don’t actually crawl for long... NEXT year you won’t have this issue AT ALL!

Being 'Houseproud' is one thing but 'Gardenproud'? What about a wee bit of Live and Let Live?

Anyway, if it's a long established tree it may very well have a preservation order on it - my brother has a MASSIVE oak tree that was there when he moved into his current house. It has a local council preservation order on it and he can't lay a finger on it without getting formal permission. The penalties for trying to even tidy it up a bit without getting an official OK are a bit eye-watering......and rightly so, IMHO.

There aren't many trees that bloom for months on end

www.hunker.com/13424390/which-flowering-trees-bloom-the-longest

www.suzannesfarm.com/columns20080814.php

If you don't like it - move

If you don't like it - move

I’m not sure anyone who came to view the house would buy it even they saw the massive tree encroaching on ours and our neighbours lawns. I think the house would be on the market for quite some time

I don’t want the tree ripped up, dug up or killed, I just want it’s owner to take on some responsibility and accept that’s its gotten far too large now for her own garden and that as it overhangs other gardens too and causes problems for the other residents then maybe she should have it properly maintained.

She lives in another County (well she did last year) so it’s easy for her to turn a blind eye and a deaf ear when she’s not here to see how problematic the tree has become and hear the concerns of all the neighbours.

Like I said, it’s the tenants that get the grief whilst the owner just ignores the problem.

i..... think you have misunderstood gardens

i..... think you have misunderstood gardens

Yes, I'd agree with that. There seems to be an overestimation of the thread blossoms pose to a baby, too.

I like trees we've loads of trees in front of our house which looks onto a woodland and leaves always blow into our drive in autumn but we just sweep them up the trees look lovely.
However at the back my neighbour had a large tee that hung into our garden it had some white flowers on which fell off and blew all around the garden and some small black berry type things (no idea what tree it was) these got squished and we had black stuff smeared all over the garden, but also something in the tree aggravated one of the dc and shd couldn't go in the garden and we couldn't have our windows open her eyes were streaming and swollen and terrible hay fever so dh asked ndn how she felt about tree and she didn't care so he cut it down. Other trees that overhang us don't bother us just that one.

undomesticated - your poor daughter, I’m glad the neighbours were understanding.

The photo is a close up of the tree.

What a stunning tree

strongmummy - I’m not denying that, it is a beautiful tree, but beautiful trees still need maintaining properly.

Queens - read the title of your thread. You clearly state you want the tree “pulled up”, not maintained , but “pulled up”. The reason people are finding you exasperating is that you are wanting to destroy nature so your child doesn’t eat blossom. It’s silly and precious. IF you had originally written, aIBU to ask my neighbour to maintain their rather large tree you would have received more sympathetic answers.

I know what my thread title says - it was a vent. I have said numerous times throughout the thread that I don’t want the tree killed or pulled up, however I appreciate that not many people read entire threads before posting responses so I can understand why some may think I want to destroy nature when I don’t.

I’d suggest you learn a valuable lesson in venting to people who know you and appreciate your humour. On here people quite rationally read what is written and respond based on that. I have read the whole thread and still find your attitude to blossom rather laughable. If you want my advice I’d suggest getting a quote from a qualified tree surgeon on how much it would be to maintain the tree and contacting the owner of the property to discuss how the cost is split. You really DIDN’T need to come on here to come to that conclusion

My house that I moved into last year has a huge oak tree in the front. It shreds many leafs, covers the whole street in leafs.

I couldn't give a flying fig if it angers neighbours, the oak tree has been there for may years. That's nature!

she should have it properly maintained. ... which in the case of a tree means allowing it to grow to its natural shape. OK to do some formative pruning when it's very young. On a mature tree pruning to reduce size is going to mean cutting of large branches which has to be skillfully done to avoid damaging the shape, and each cut gives the possibility of introducing fungal disease which will eventually kill the tree. Cherries are particularly susceptible to this.