Borrowing expensive stuff

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My DP is really into running and has one of those running watches that measure distance, time etc. I've started to get into running too and asked if I could borrow the watch when I go alone. He won't let me! He said it's really expensive and he doesn't want to risk it getting broken/lost.
I haven't lost/broken anything expensive of his before. It's just going to be on my wrist for goodness sake. What are the chances of something happening?!

Are there things you don't let your DP borrow for this reason? I feel a bit like a child who can't be trusted to look after something! AIBU??

I’m not keen on dh using my car as he would fill it with litter, not put the seat where it should be and fiddle with the radio settings and rag the engine.

I wouldn’t like other people using my smart watch/Fitbit thing as usually they’re synched with my running/fitness apps so someone else using it would skew the stats. I can’t run anymore but stuff like smart watches or phones are mine only so others aren’t allowed to borrow them.

To be fair, I don’t actually own anything massively expensive so can’t lend much anyway, but I wouldn’t mind family borrowing expensive stuff (bar items above).

Naah, YABU. I get it's annoying, but borrowing expensive stuff really is a recipe for disaster. Speaking from bitter experience here. I now never lend anything, no matter who's asking. I'd much rather gift the object in question, I've had one too many things go missing/broken/forgotten about.

I think a person shouldn't lend anything they would really hate to see lost or broken. It's not a reflection on the borrower at all - however careful they are, accidents do happen and it's better not to risk the fallout imo.

Think about the FIL wine glass thread and how many people said the FIL shouldn't have let his DIL use a glass he couldn't bear to see broken. I think that's a good life rule generally!

They are highly personal items and synchronised via Bluetooth with personalised apps on the owner's phone, and also often with their email and social media accounts.

You really need to get one of your own for that reason. I wouldn't let anyone else use mine.

Therefore, you are being a bit unreasonable. Sorry if that isn't what you wanted to hear.

Ok, looks like IABU. It's unanimous

topsyet You're right, time to invest in my own I think!

DH's laptop is broken so he is using my Macbook and I'm a bag of nerves about it. His own laptop is grubby with fingerprints and crumbs in between the keys. Frankly I don't want him to use mine at all because it was expensive.

I can see the point about the watch if it can't change accounts to accommodate two people.

I generally don't think DH and I have anything the other can't use. I've even borrowed a pair of his boxer shorts sometimes .

I don’t like lending books. It adds a dimension of uneasiness to reading that same copy again (what would X have thought/understood/ interpreted here?), no matter how much I like the borrower.
I’d much rather GIVE it to them and have it gone from my life to a better home. If needs be I can buy it again.

No qualms about lending clothes, jewelry, tech, home equipment (how often do you use a buffet server? Or a full length ball gown?) as long as they don’t get damaged.
Just books...

Is the running watch an expensive new purchase and he’s still looking forward to using it properly himself? In that case I might be reluctant, too.

I'm not the right person to ask...DH just lost my fitbit...fell off his wrist..so I rather sympathise with your DP!

sgtma No, he's had it for ages.

wheresthebeach Oh no! Ok, maybe the falling off the wrist thing is possible!!

You can buy inexpensive versions to track your running

like this
or this
or this

Gumtree and eBay are good for pre owned fitbits for a fraction of the price.

I wouldn’t lend my Fitbit to someone else, not because of the expense but more that it is synced to my devices and would skew my own stats (as others have also mentioned)

I absolutely would not lend mine either.

Totally mess up the synch. To my apps and muck up my data.

We are very one sided in our house, DH will share anything, including tech. I DONT share tech, and hate sharing other possessions.

He is a bit put out when I won’t tell him my laptop password, but he ain’t having it.

Thanks for the links thanksforallthefish . They are much more in the price range I'm comfortable with, as I'm not a serious runner like DP!

jedenfalls Your dynamic sounds similar to ours. I'm very relaxed with lending things, DP not so much!! He has things that he bought years ago, which are still like new. He's very careful about looking after his stuff.

I'd lend DH anything but if he broke something expensive I'd expect him to offer to replace it. Sunday he blew my positive battery terminal on my car trying to jump start it. When the mechanic told us how it likely got broken, DH was very apologetic and offered to pay for the repair and part - £80 so not very expensive. I said no because ultimately he tried to help me out and made a mistake, if I'd not left my interior light on in the first place he wouldn't have been trying to jump start my car. But the offer definitely helped. I get the Fitbit thing because of stats and synching. Whether or not DH would lend me one of his precious bagged and boarded mint comic books is another question though!!