To be annoyed about this raffle prize?

[WetsTheVet]

I donated a pair of sunglasses as a raffle prize to a friend who was raising money for a marathon she did a few weeks ago. Didn't think anything of it until I saw her wearing them this weekend. She said they'd had too many prizes after all so she'd decided to just keep them. . I said that I'd donated them for charity not to just give them away to her, and she gave me them back but was was very put out and said I shouldn't give gifts I wanted back! Wtf, they weren't a gift?? Aibu??

I would be telling the charity that she didnt raffle all the prizes and kept some for herself brining the charity into disrepute but then I have had a very crappy weekend and morning and am fucked off with the world.

I see she did give you them back. But she obviously thinks she has done nothing wrong. She can't be trusted an inch IMHO.

I'm with @Willow2017 on this. I'd be letting the charity know and let them take whatever steps they feel appropriate with her.

Reminds me of a friend who held the cash and carry card for our PTA - kept donations herself and gave others to her friends , bought things for the pta to ‘store’ at her house and kept them so long with the turnover of people no one even knew it was pta stuff. She even used the card to do her family shop there. Never once did she think she was being cf.

Blimey, and there was me feeling guilty for eating the occasional biscuit out of the packets I buy for a social group I co-run!

YANBU for being annoyed with her. There's no way she should have kept the sunglasses; it's no different to keeping a cash donation. She should either have put them in the raffle, or 'bought' them by donating money herself for them and even then she should really have said something to you before she did it.

Wow @paperthin seems to be more common than I thought.....

What a chancer.

Nowt like a bit of altruism when working in charity.

Kind of borderline theft, really.

Reminds me of the time when DS was two, and going to a playgroup twice a week.

They had a Christmas party in playgroup hours, so I had paid for his playgroup session, but appearntly because it was a party I had to be there to look after him.

So basically I had paid that days full fee to look after my own child for three hours. In addition, they asked everybody to provide something for the party tea, and I gave a box of fancy biscuits. The idea being everybody bring one thing and then everybody shares.

The biscuits never got put on the table. I realised towards the end and had a bit of a look around and found all kinds of goodies tucked away at the back. All of them the sort of thing you could give as a gift, in fancy tins or boxes.

So I asked why they had been held back and was told that they'd had a lot of food donated and so they were saving some for the second party for the afternoon group of children.

Who were all bringing a donation of their own, so who didn't need saved food. Which I pointed out and they fobbed me off with some other excuse, and basically it ended with the staff keeping the best looking food or food that could easily be passed off as gifts for themselves.

Not only had we all paid to look after our own children, we'd also apparently done a food/gift shop for the staff, and most children had taken in presents for the staff as well.

Then they tried to sell me a calendar of photo's of my own son for £12 to raise funds.

Your friend sounds like she'd get on well working there.

Why would she even be raising money with a raffle for a marathon? Surely you get sponsored for running the marathon?

Seriously cheeky! Glad you called her out on it and got them back!

Oh my word, more front than Blackpool that one. Reminds me of my brother in laws wedding reception, he announced to all the guests that his daughter would be doing a skydive to raise awareness for anxious stepladders or something and sent buckets around asking for money to pay for the skydive. I should point out that the whole family does skydivers recreationally Should pay for it themselves and ask for sponsorship grr.