AIBU to think that you respect the parents wishes in terms of posting online?

[OnNaturesCourse]

I have repeatedly asked that pictures of my LO online are kept to a minimum, and if any are put on either myself or my partner are made aware of it.

I'm not saying no to all pictures, I know people want to show LO off but I can't want loads online. They are precious and personal.

AIBU to think that you respect the parents wishes in terms of posting online?

How would you address this when people don't respect this wish?

(Daily Mail etc can bugger off, I don't want this posted on Facebook or anywhere else 😂)

Of course you respect their wishes! If someone can't respect that, they don't get to take pictures of your child.

Who has done what?

Yes, but I think you’ve made your wishes really ambiguous and unclear as what people define as a minimum or a lot can differ greatly. You’d probably be best off with a blanket ban than wishy washy rules

You can't really stop people taking photos though

To be honest, I'd not want the stress of who is taking what photos, policing it, checking back online to see what's posted, then the backlash of conversations protesting about it before checking back again they've been removed etc etc....

People get over excited I am assuming it isfamily who are posting Yanbu though I am ancient and I think posting every picture online isn't right. Can you and dad change your settings so you can't be tagged without permission

I would never post a photo of a child online if their parents didn’t want photos put up. I don’t have a problem with children’s photos online myself, but I agree the parents shouldn’t be overridden on it.

Ur bubz, ur rulz hun 😁

I have said previously one or two pictures whenever LO is visiting or at event etc is fine. I just don't want social media awash with LO baby pictures, I don't think it's right IMO. People post everything these days without consideration that one day LOs are going to be older enough to be online themselves.

I'm considering a blanket ban but no idea how to approach it without causing upset.

I would also never even dream of posting a pic of someone else’s child without permission, relative or not. My kids were heading into high school when Facebook became a big thing and they always asked me not to post any pics of them, which of course I respected.

If people are upset by a ban, then tough luck on them tbh! It is a perfectly reasonable thing for a parent to request IMO. I don’t know about it myself but a friend of mine with a young one uses something, I think it’s called Life Cake? Where families can share pictures privately. Maybe that would be a solution?

You might have to cause a little bit of upset, better to do it sooner rather than later as people may start feeling that you're taking something away if they've been allowed to do it for ages. My mum sulked initially for a day and then got over it and everything is fine now. The last straw was her taking pictures of my washing (!) and posting it on facebook. I don't want my washing OR my DC posted on facebook!

YANBU to say they should respect parents wishes but YABU for being wishy washy, a blanket ban is easier to understand and avoids ambiguity