I didn’t offer her the job!

[Babybubblescomingsoon]

I have been away working for the last month and tomorrow is a bank holiday. I am working everyday until next Friday and didn’t want to spend my day cleaning tomorrow so I am getting cleaner in for 4 hours to clean my apartment. I put a post on a local page and got numerous responses. One girl messaged me she seemed like a possible good fit. I sent her a message of the time I would possibly need her and the duties it would entail. She said she was about to go out but would get back in to me Very soon. I didn’t hear back for a good 6 hours and had chosen someone else (it’s a one off cleaning job so I don’t need a thorough interview process). She came back to me asking for me address etc. I said that unfortunately I have gone for someone else as I hadn’t heard back from her quickly enough. She told me that she had cancelled a meeting in order to work for me and this was the third time someone had let her down. AIBU to think you haven’t been let down by someone who didn’t even offer you the job or was in in the wrong?

No she was in the wrong. She didn't get back to you. So you had no choice but to find someone else. You didn't promise her anything and she was wrong to assume that you would wait 6 hours for an answer

You didnt do anything wring. She could easily have replied to your message saying she wanted the job, it's no more effort than the reply she gave. She sent a vague message so it sounds like she wanted to keep her options open. Her fault for not committing.

She's a twit. Consider it a bullet dodged that you didn't allow her into your home.

She left it too long. You didn't give a definite 'Yes'. You've done nothing wrong.

Yanbu. Given she says this is the third time somebody has let her down I'd consider giving her some feedback (if you feel like being helpful). She doesn't appear to realise that if a potential customer is looking for the job to be done tomorrow then it's probably a good idea to firm up price/requirements/time sooner rather than later. Expecting you to wait 6 hours for a yay or nay the day before meant you risked leaving it too late to get anyone had she eventually come back saying it didn't suit. Of course you were going to look elsewhere!

Depending on how you worded the email with the times etc, it did sound like you had offered the job, and she had explained she was going out.

If English is not her first language then there may have been a miss communication
The fact it's happened 3 times suggests she is having problems.
I've contacted a lot if cleaners and tradesmen for quote etc over the years so I don't waste anyone's time I always say if you don't hear from me by the weekend I've given job tosomeone else, it flies in the face if my polite britishness and I feel a twat saying it, but i think it's appresiated

I had an insurance salesmen try that guilt trip on me thirty years ago. I am astonished people still try it when they drop the ball.

YANBU. It would be kind if you could find a nice way to point out that she needs to improve her business practices if she wants to avoid more of the same, but you aren't obligated to.

If all she was going to ask was for your address etc, why did she feel the need to go out before sending a message that would have taken her 2mins to write? She obviously wasn't that interested, not your problem. Going out was more important to her, that's her problem.