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To tell ex’s girlfriend he’s cheating?

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mumzilla1988 · 07/05/2018 22:11

Would I be unreasonable to tell her he’s messing about?
I was with my ex for 9 years and I found out towards the end of our relationship he was secretly seeing my best friend!
My relationship ended and so did my friendship with my best friend. Other factors also lead to the split but this was one of the main reasons. They would text all night and even secretly planned to run away together it’s was devastating and all came out in the end!
Anyways 6 years on and everyone moved on and me and my ex have been on good terms ever since for the sake of our daughter. I know his partner very well as she was also s friend of mine (not anymore)
My daughter came home the other day saying she spent the day with * and daddy. I asked if she sees her a lot and she said sometimes... I asked my ex he laughed and said I will if I want too and that she was “easy”
(His partner is away)
Apart of me wants to warn her. But apart of me doesn’t want to get involved. Would you say something? Is it wrong to keep quiet? Or would it be wrong to say something to her? I like to think someone would tell me if it was me being treated this way.

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CaptainCabinets · 07/05/2018 22:20

Difficult. On one hand, I wouldn’t want to shit-stir but on the other hand, I’d want to be told. Your call, really.

MightyMucks · 07/05/2018 22:24

I would leave well alone. I doubt she would believe you anyway, he would probably say that you were shit stirring out of jealousy. I think you need to speak to him about exposing your daughter to his love life without sufficient thought for how it will affect her emotionally having a roundabout of women coming in and out of her life.

Mumofkids · 07/05/2018 22:24

I would be more pissed off about him not being able to spend time with his daughter without a woman in tow, and it being someone he's casually shagging!! That's really naughty!

Queenoftheblitz · 07/05/2018 22:28

I would normally say yes tell her but your dd comes first. If your ex turns on you for opening your mouth then it may affect your dd.
He's a piece of shit but being civil with him is preferable to two parents fighting with the child in the middle.

Voice0fReason · 07/05/2018 22:46

Keep out of it. It will just come across as shit-stirring.

mumzilla1988 · 07/05/2018 23:18

Yea I think that’s best
I can’t risk my daughter being affected. Cheers

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