Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Would you want to know if family had cheated you out of an inheritance?

100 replies

CushionCover2 · 07/05/2018 19:15

For background my grandfather was very generous to me and my siblings, when he died I was late teens and my mum told me he died without a will therefore everything went to her and her brother, she gave me and my siblings about £1,000 each out of her inheritance. I don’t know the size of his estate but I’d estimate around £250k.

Today my uncle told me, as part of another story, that when he did probate for my grandfather they’d had to track down the witness to his will and it had been a bit difficult because they’d moved etc.

Later on I said offhandedly that I thought grandfather hadn’t left a will, did they find one in the end? And uncle denied there being a will and said they did probate without so I just left it and started talking about something else, but it got me thinking so I looked on the probate website and there is a probate certificate with will, I can pay £10 for a copy.

Should I request a copy and find out if I was supposed to inherit or leave it to keep good family relations? My mum has spent all the money so even if I was supposed to inherit I doubt there’s any money left to give me.

OP posts:
NeedMoreSleepOrSugar · 07/05/2018 21:02

I'd definitely order a copy. Id rather know than always wonder.

NoSleepNever · 07/05/2018 21:05

I'd want to check and you'll see from it who (if anyone) was lying by who benefited most from it.

NoSleepNever · 07/05/2018 21:06

(The lying, I mean.)

Dvg · 07/05/2018 21:06

Order and keep us updated, I can't believe someone would go against someone's will like that if she has

TrickyD · 07/05/2018 21:09

Well worth spending the £10. Do it.
Wills are public documents partly for cases like this.

ThatsWotSheSaid · 07/05/2018 21:09

I’d want to know.

CVLB · 07/05/2018 21:16

As far as I am aware, to vary the terms are of a will all beneficiaries to the will have to agree . Therefore, if you had been named as a beneficiary to the will, you would have to agree to any variation on how the estate is distributed. If probate didn't go through solicitors it would be down to the executors to carry through with the wishes in the will, so might be open to manipulation Confused you would like to hope not though!

FASH84 · 07/05/2018 21:20

So your mum inherited £125k and spent it on holidays cars and clothes because she had no need for it, and gave you £1000 , my family is very different to yours.

CushionCover2 · 07/05/2018 21:21

Seems pretty unanimous that I should request a copy, I just hope I’m wrong!

OP posts:
LanaorAna2 · 07/05/2018 21:28

PM-ed you OP.

PotteryLady · 07/05/2018 21:47

I would want to know but I would prepare for the worse.

ZigZagIntoTheBlue · 07/05/2018 22:04

I would 100% order it and find out, no idea why you wouldn't. What you do with the info afterwards is up for debate though and obviously depends very much on the contents of the will - good luck!!

Opensesame1 · 07/05/2018 22:21

I would definitely want to see it! Now that you have your suspicions there will be resent meant there if you don’t find out so at least if you see it and she has been deceitful the resentment will be justified.

nonbikerchick · 07/05/2018 22:29

Order it OP you need to know for peace of mind.

NancyJoan · 07/05/2018 22:31

Would ask your mum? Mention the conversation you had with your Uncle?

Beaverhausen · 07/05/2018 22:39

No, it did not being my.loved one back and fighting over property or money is petty when you should be remember in them.

It is just not worth it.

GlitteryFluff · 07/05/2018 23:00

I would

burnoutbabe · 07/05/2018 23:07

I would strongly suspect that if there was a will saying "leave it to the grandkids" then mum and uncle WOULD NOT HAVE SUBMITTED IT. They'd have just destroyed it and claimed it wasn't found so they get 50/50 under intestacy rules.
They'd be very stupid to file a will and do something else. But maybe they are that stupid!

HateIsNotGood · 07/05/2018 23:12

Request a copy by all means to reassure yourself - about what I'm not sure really as generally Parents tend to leave their inheritance to their DC (eg: your Mum and Uncle, etc). Grandchildren aren't usually direct inheritors unless the GP were pissed off with their own DC or specific provisions were made in the Will.

There was obviously a Will as your Uncle felt the need to track down the Witnesses to verify it - slightly absurd.

If you have any inheritance to leave OP hopefully your own DC won't have pissed you off or their DC, your GC, won't feel that they deserve it more than their parents do.

mrselizabethdarcy · 07/05/2018 23:17

I would want to know.

honeysucklejasmine · 07/05/2018 23:18

I'd have to know. As pp said, it's not uncommon for GPs to leave estates entirely to their grandchildren - I know that's what my GMs will says - she told me. Equally I hope that by the time my parents die I am in the position to direct inheritance straight to my children.

DoublyTroubly · 08/05/2018 06:25

Have you thought that there might be a different secret in the will - a second family or something that they don’t want to be widely known about?

Just remember that you could be opening Pandora’s box with this

44PumpLane · 08/05/2018 06:41

Definitely request!

polkadotwellies · 08/05/2018 06:49

I'm intrigued now

Nottheduchessofcambridge · 08/05/2018 06:52

Definitely order it. It may put your mind at ease.