To go topless in my own garden?

[YellowStages]

Perhaps I am. I have to say, I feel quite sad that so many people might mind since it's even in my own garden. Posting in AIBU so preparing myself for a flame

I have been in the garden with just bikini bottoms on today, playing with my 6 month old in the paddling pool , relaxing, etc.

I am almost 100% sure next door wouldn't be able to see anything, unless the children jumped on their trampoline and caught a glimpse. But they're impeccably quiet and I've never heard a peep from them (I think they're both no more than age 8).

We do however have a bit of a gap at the back where you can sort of see onto the huge field in front of us, where some little boys ride their bikes, lots of football training goes on, people walk their dogs, etc.

But it is generally a very quiet area and apart from when football is taking place, never really anyone there!

DH has been very and thinks I should at least be cautious and cover when I'm facing a certain way.

AIBU? I have been quickly whipping a Muslin over myself sometimes but as the day has progressed, I've started not to bother.

I'm really comfortable just being topless and it is the absolute norm where my family are from.

I breastfeed in the garden so that makes that easier too. I know I should probably consider other people but it is my own personal garden so I think people can look the other way if they're not wanting to see, can't they?

I'm a B cup so you wouldn't see any swooshing around. Not much to see really.

Going topless - yes of course you can do what you want.
Stating that because you’re a B cup it’s somehow ok or better??? Not ok!

If you lived next to me and I happened to notice you were sunbathing topless I’d be secretly pleased because I’d feel even more comfortable doing the same

*But if you looked over and a male neighbour had his bits out, that isn't the same because that is (correct me if I'm wrong, I've made an assumption), genitalia.

Breasts are just a food source, and often an 'attraction' but so are legs, lips, etc. *

I don’t disagree with you, but from a purely legal standpoint you couldn’t walk down the road topless or pop into Tesco’s topless. That’s the thing. Like I say, if no one complains then there’s no issue.

Absolutely agree with TooManyPaws, they're just boobs for goodness sake. I'm perfectly happy getting mine out to sunbathe, and where I live people wouldn't bat a bloody eyelid. Don't stress about it.

Nah I wouldn't be bothered,I'm just envious I don't have a garden that I can do it. Block of flats..my neighbours would definitely have something to say

Lulu I agree with you but sadly a lot of people seem to think bigger boobs are a bigger no

Sounds good to me but don’t forget to put some cream on to stop burning. Never forgotten getting my boobs burnt when on holiday and how painful it was.

Have a very private garden and will be doing the same as you OP this summer.

Yo my nipples and what not haven't ever burned, they're the colour of chocolate buttons

It’s fine. I wish it was more acceptable for women to be topless in their own gardens (I don’t want to see anyone, male or female, topless in town).

I mentioned a man doing it as so many people are saying “it’s your garden, do what you want” so if people are using that logic, why couldn’t a man sunbathe naked in his own garden? Well, because some people may find it offensive. I do not find topless women offensive at all, and it wouldn’t bother me. So all I was saying, is that if no one complains then great, go for it. But if anyone does then just remember you don’t have an automatic right to be topless.

Currently topless in my garden

Free the tatas!

Nah I wouldn't be bothered,I'm just envious I don't have a garden that I can do it. Block of flats..my neighbours would definitely have something to say

Same I do have my own patio ... but it’s right at the front of the building where all the cars are parked. Maybe I’ll do it just for entertainment purposes

Just remembering a trip to South Wales and the seaside there. In the sea topless when a troop of Boy Scouts hoved over the sand dunes. I made their day I think although it was a long cold wait until they left and I could come out of the sea. Too chicken to walk out in front of them!

Go for it. It's your garden! If your neighbours can't cope with an occasional glimpse of boob then that's on them tbh - they're just boobs!

Yellow you are lucky, mine cracked and were agony!

Storm Interesting time someone would have prosecuting me since I'm breastfeeding. There are very fine lines etc, and of course women are free to feed completely topless if they so wish so I think anyone complaining would have a hard time arguing that back.

But no, I don't breastfeed topless in public. Just adding to the thread that technically, you can be as exposed as you like (top half), if breastfeeding, can't you?

@WestWorldconfusesme I may also join you on not being shy,and plomp myself near bin shed(only seating area 😕)....may encourage fellow neighbours to do same

Storm breasts aren’t genitalia, it’s legal for women to be topless. It’s also you have to have the intent of causing offence not just some one being offended. So being topless in your own garden - fine. Running through a children’s play park naked - not fine.

Wouldn't bother me if you were stark naked (and no, a man doing it wouldn't bother me either). The law around this area does not seem great though so it might be a risk :(

Yes but presumably your not breastfeeding the entire time your in the garden? Please don’t get me wrong, I don’t personally think your doing anything wrong. I also think that probably no one will say a word and it will be absolutely fine.

I just wanted you to know what the law is, just in case.

You’re over thinking it. Go topless if you want. Personally I’m so ultra cautious about sun burn and potential health risks that I find it’s far more comfortable to wear a loose cotton floaty top. It actually feels cooler than being naked and slathered in sun cream.

Don’t understand the relevance of bf. Women have legislation to protect their right to bf. You could take off your top entirely to bf but most women manage without needing to....

Yes but intent also means that if someone says “i’m Sorry but I don’t like it” and you carry on doing it, then yes that is intent. It is a thin line and i’m not saying OP would be dragged into court or anything like that. But just saying “it’s your garden so you can do what you want” isn’t totally correct.

Having looked it up briefly Storm it seems that there would be a need to prove intent to cause distress or alarm to others so I can't see how someone being topless in their garden could be prosecuted for anything really.

A man can be topless in his garden but a woman who is topless might cause offence? Does that not smack of inequality?

“But what's the law on nudity in the UK? It's not an offence to be naked in public in England and Wales but it does become an offence if it can be proved the person stripped off with the intention to upset and shock. The complainant has to prove this.“

From a bbc article www.bbc.co.uk/newsbeat/article/33092812/this-is-where-you-can-be-naked-in-public-in-the-uk