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AIBU?

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To think that mumsnet ain't helping

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margesimpson40 · 07/05/2018 14:47

Been scrolling through posts, some very sad threads about pretty serious stuff, mums at the end of their tether and then there are posts with less serious issues, issues none the less and I'm not demeaning them or the mums. BUT a lady with young kids and an otc medication addiction and depression etc, gets under 10 replys and the repayment of a broken wine glass gets over 1000. Do you think we've all lost a grip on what's important or we come here for some escapism. I know the mum with the wine glass issue was distressed and rightly so, so it's not about diminishing her trauma. Would be interested to hear everyone's thoughts.

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PlatypusPie · 07/05/2018 15:24

I would assume most are coming here for escapism, for quiet moment of brain spin, in hopes of an amusing thread that takes on a surreal life of its own. With the more serious, indeed desperate, threads it is to good to see people with actual experience or relevant knowledge contributing some actually helpful anecdotes or signposts to correct legal/ official information. Maybe it is good that people hold back from chipping in when what they have to say isn’t helpful ( other than a brief note of sympathy )

Mummyoflittledragon · 07/05/2018 15:26

Why don’t you link us to the thread with few responses seeing as youve had more that 10 responses already. I also put a thread up for medical advice with 2 responses. Things don’t always work.

Italiangreyhound · 07/05/2018 15:33

The best areas of Mumsnet are where people can ask specific things like fertility, adoption etc and there is a very very different feel to how things are on AIBU.

Sadly, some very serious issues are not responded to and that may be because some posters do just want escapism. And perhaps because we don't always know how to reply to people or what to say.

But I do feel that Mumsnet has provided support to some who really need it, including posters in the middle of the night just wanting someone to 'hand hold'. It's a free service to us users and I think it does a lot of good.

tolerable · 07/05/2018 15:36

it only takes 1 helpful one. surely.it is what it is

WingsOnMyBoots · 07/05/2018 15:41

Speaking for myself, if it's a serious problem, unless I know what I'm talking about for sure, no, I don't get involved. I don't want to lead them in the wrong direction or make things worse so best to say nothing. A few times I have said I am sorry the OP is this position but really that's not much use.

MinaPaws · 07/05/2018 15:47

I think different people comment oin different threads. There may be loads of people piling onto the entertaining threads and only a handful of regulars who check in on MH or similar, but I'd rather have 10 replies from people who know what they are talking about if I'm struggling than 1000 soz huns.

2andcountingtodate · 07/05/2018 16:08

I put up a thread with no responses on another talk area. It happens. It would have been nice to speak to someone but people are busy and not that interested in some threads. Or they recognise the poster, think not you again, what's the point of shouting into the void and move on. Or they only give what they can give in terms of experience, time and emotion

halfwitpicker · 07/05/2018 16:10

As pp's have said I come on here for a laugh and maybe for some wisdom. I have none to impart, really.

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margesimpson40 · 07/05/2018 16:48

Thank you

You're all right :) and having thought about it, it's why I'm on here, I love the funny threads and the ones that make me shake my head and say .. You're not serious. I find it fascinating reading all the ways kids get brought up too. Again thank you, appreciate the feedback and I seem to have got the wonderful and wise posters :)

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margesimpson40 · 07/05/2018 16:56

Little Dragon . .. Hit me with your medical query :) Samphire it's a kind of seaweed, trust me my knickers ain't in a bunch, more curious tbh and now it has been sated :) my DS as he must be refered to is 22 so I've a bit of a cheek coming here now, wish it had been around when he was at school, playground mums thought I was a weirdo, in turn I thought they were a bunch of twats who spent too long judging :)

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pigsDOfly · 07/05/2018 17:05

Don't worry about your DS being 22 Marge my DC range from 31 up to 38.

I could have done with MN when I was married, might have helped me realised what an arse he was a bit sooner.

CuriousaboutSamphire · 07/05/2018 17:05

marge It is also a play on the name of a gin, highly recommended

I want to thank you though. I have never used that bunched knicker phrase before, and your user name made it seem appropriate

AmazingPostVoices · 07/05/2018 17:21

I wouldn't reply to a serious thread unless I knew what I was talking about.

^^ exactly this.

Some threads I ignore because I don’t have anything helpful to say.

Some threads I ignore because I’m not qualified to help someone with addiction/abuse/suicidal thoughts.

Some threads I ignore because I don’t have the emotional bandwidth to contribute at the time.

Some threads I ignore because I don’t think they are true.

Saucery · 07/05/2018 17:28

Sometimes rl help is what an OP needs, not 1000 cheerleading comments.

PerfectlySymmetricalButtocks · 07/05/2018 17:29

I haven't seen the first thread you mention OP.

vampirethriller · 07/05/2018 17:49

The broken glass one is on the mail online and Take a Breaks Facebook page now
Yes you're right, I agree though a lot of people don't know what to say/can't relate to some serious posts... Like in real life I suppose

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margesimpson40 · 07/05/2018 19:20

The original post on another section somewhere, can't remember, I replied to her, shared experience and this is anonymous so I can be honest on here. Which is a relief. I don't even watch The Simpson either tbh.I went looking for a post on the subject as I had posted one a good while ago, but totally forgot about it and thought if someone had similar issue I could do them a favour, by kicking them up the arse. Unfortunately I think otc and prescribed addiction has been brought to the fore by someone with untold money at his disposal, so a trip to the priory is luckily an option for him. Not for that woman who posted though. Think Ant should realise Britain may have talent, but it doesn't have adequate care and help for drug addicts, sadly there's an entire section of the population who are addicts and don't know. Anyway, this is the place for wine glasses and freaking out cause your kid ate all the chocolate biscuits and I'm good with that tbh. Ant macp and people like him can't fall off the wagon as much as they want, they will get picked up and bounced into rehab. That poster has one chance maybe two and a waiting list that's as dangerous as the amount of codeine she's popping.

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