To have realised I haven’t spoken to anyone for a week

[wimgr]

It’s really strange. Not like I haven’t done anything in that time.

I’ve been to work. Obviously exchanged pleasantries with people (good morning and so on.)

I’ve been to the gym three times.

I went to a gallery yesterday morning and to a market in the afternoon. Yesterday I did some work outside a coffee shop.

So I haven’t been sitting indoors miserable.

But I am still so lonely and unhappy.

That’s really tough. Almost worse in a way that you’ve interacted with people but not really communicated on any meaningful level . Do you have any friends or family you could call for a chat or meet up? I know sometimes I will go weeks without speaking to my DBros or making any effort beyond a wave and smile to local friends as we pass. Are there people you could be chatting to if you made the time, or is it really that you don’t have anyone?

Thanks. I did have a few friends; I suppose I still do, but understandably they are quite tied up. So I suppose I don’t have anyone really which is depressing!

I know what you mean, I’ve had periods when I didn’t speak to anyone for days.

It can be hard.

I feel like everyone’s enjoying the weather except me!

Yes as a single mum I spend a lot of weekends on my own with the DCs. I also work at home alone and actually quite enjoy the peace a lot of the time but when you see people on FB out at events with friends and family it can be hard. I recently got back together with my BF after a two month split and while we were apart I felt the loneliness very keenly. Some days he’s the only adult I speak to. I’ve been through longer periods of isolation before I met him too. Trouble is we all know the advice, reach out, invite people over etc but they’re always busy!

They are busy which is understandable. I seem to have fallen onto the fringes surprisingly easily.

How are you feeling now?

Is it possible to invite a work colleague for coffee?

I think to make friends in a gym you need to go at regular times every week.

Have you thought about joining something like WI? Or other similar social groups? There are some fab groups around - do you have any special interests?