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To want my mother to lay off

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Lucky6266 · 07/05/2018 11:49

She never stops going at me about my weight, makeup, hair etc.
Weight is at the top with it being the first topic as soon as I walk thru the door.
I suffer from depression and do have eating issues that I have addressed before but end up falling into bad habits again she worries about my health I have diabetes etc. She stresses me out with her constant nagging I have to watch what I eat in front of her because she will be giving eye rolling looks and tutting etc.
My hair is too long for my age and too straggly, I have double chin, my lipstick is too bright and my mascara and liner is too black and my nieces makeup is constantly brought up and I need to do like her as she knows how to do it. Also I don't look good in my choice of jeans I look bigger the black cotton ones are better.
My lipstick makes me look like a clown.
I feel as though I must look so bad and she sometimes shatters my confidence.
I get really down at times with my life and she never calls me to see if I'm okay.
None of my family do actually I have problems with motivation and push myself out to work never tried to claim benefit and never been entitled to anything despite struggling at times.
I have a lovely partner but his culture isn't of my mother's liking so that's another thing she goes on about. I have 2 sisters who spend alot of thier time with my mother she is very lucky but doesn't see it and just spends all her time moaning about me and claims that worrying about me keeps her awake at night.

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Lucky6266 · 07/05/2018 11:49

Sorry for long rant

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NapQueen · 07/05/2018 11:51

This woman is the cause of all of your insecurities and food issues. Guaranteed.

You would do better to exclude her from your life completely.

Aprilmightbemynewname · 07/05/2018 11:52

I would tell her actually dm I have identified the cause of my unhappiness - and it's you. So unless you can love me the way I am I suggest you fuck off.
Or similar if you are more polite than me.
Flowers

Idontdowindows · 07/05/2018 11:52

Basically what @NapQueen said. Any chance you can go to some counseling to help you extract yourself from this influence?

Lucky6266 · 07/05/2018 11:55

She is 85 my dad died last year and she is always saying I didn't give him enough time.

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Lucky6266 · 07/05/2018 11:56

She has never once tried to understand me.

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Lucky6266 · 07/05/2018 11:57

I am confused about this because of her age.

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