To think they should go in now?

[jamoncrumpets]

NDN's have four kids aged between 4 and 12. We live in a row of terraces, packed tightly and each have pretty small back yards. NDN's kids have a trampoline that is the same width as their yard. So the kids all bounce on it, loudly, look into our yard and often give commentary on what we're doing 'She's got a drink', 'why are you sitting there?' etc etc.

Fine. They're kids. There are four of them. They'll be loud. It's a terrace. Whatever. But...

They do this until 9-10pm every evening. They're out there now swearing at each other and yelling pop songs at the tops of their lungs.

We have a 3yo DC and a baby due in a few weeks. AIBU to think their DM should perhaps get them in a little bit earlier, considering how noisy they all are?

I don’t think you’re unreasonable. If their parents are reasonable then having a quiet word asking if they could maybe wind down by 9 with the jumping and shouting isn’t a terrible request. At least tell them to mind their own business when jumping on it!

This is MN though, where neighbours are allowed to have a rock concert until 11pm and start up again at 7am sharp if they so choose, and you can’t mention it or even get annoyed.

That would drive me up the wall YANBU

DC isn't bothered by noise particularly, but I do worry that DC2 may be somewhat different! Also I'd just quite like to sit out and have a drink or sit down without several faces peering at me over my fence every five seconds.

For comparison, our adult neighbours on the other side had a boozy bbq with music and singing today, but they stopped by 8.

DC isn't bothered by noise particularly, but I do worry that DC2 may be somewhat different!

Could be an issue. My eldest sleeps like my partner, a brass band could play right next to them and they’d still be snoring away. My youngest sadly takes after myself, if an ant farted two miles away, we’d hear it and be awake half the night.

The trouble is balancing out reasonable behaviour on both sides. Pre children, 8-9pm was barely considered ‘late’ to myself, and when they’re a bit older it will probably not seem so late again. At the moment though, people being loud after about 8.30pm are like the world’s biggest arseholes. I say this typing from my bed, trying to settle the baby whilst my neighbours are having a shouting match and slamming doors. So I may be biased on the ‘arseholes’ thing.

You have the perfect antidote about to arrive...windows open when new baby is crying, taking the crying baby out for some air...you get the drift 😂

Have this problem myself. Neighbours have converted garden shed into a little bar/den. I can just about handle the noise in the day because it's reasonable but come 8pm or so when I am.getting DS age 4 to bed I want them to pipe.down. they also play loud rap music and not to be a old fuddy duddy but the language is appalling. My boy asked me today what a nigger was?

Our gardens back onto some other gardens and two of the families have the screamiest children in the world. They are out there ALL DAY when it’s sunny and never have conversations-they literally scream at each other and at their parents for 12 hours straight. I can still hear them outside now. Luckily ds’s room is at the front of the house, but it’s really antisocial. I just want their parents to put them to bed!