To think DD is wrong to say I can't be disappointed by the things she does now she is an adult?

[AskinginApril]

She is deciding to spend her revision time gaming, gaming until early hours, no revision being done. I tell her I'm disappointed and will be upset when she fails (I think she probably will, but she doesn't seem that fussed as she has a place on the course she wants). It's perfectly acceptable for me to be disappointed, isn't it?

Her exams, her results, her fallout. Tell her she will reap what she sows.

Of course it's OK to be disappointed. She may have her college place, but screwing up these exams may limit future choices if the course isn't right for her. But, meh, if she's a adult, it's her choice, and nothing you can do about it either. There will be other roads to take, they may just be a little more onerous.

A levels? Remind her they will be on her CV for years to come, particularly important if her college/uni course doesn't lead straight into her preferred job. Of course you feel disappointed that she is making poor choices at the moment, she can't dictate how you feel. They are her choices to make, though.

It's just such a shame to see her pick her choices and you wish she'll just listen to me.

I would give her the medicine she deserves and remove the router/change the password on it.

Being disappointed isn’t helping is it? Your house, your electricity bill, presumably you bought the electronic devices for her.

Turn the router off and hide it over night. Tell her to go to bed. She isn’t making adult choices. Why should she be treated like an adult?

I’m assuming she is a teenager living at home. Adult isn’t something that automatically kicks in at 16 or 18. Stand up to her.

Turn off the WiFi, simple solution.

I absolutely don’t follow the mumsnet philosophy of the dc is 8 so an adult and can do as she/he pleases. She’s living with you, there are house rules eg contribute to household or work towards exams etc.

No, I didn't buy the devices for her