Divorce support and advice

[butterballs9]

I've had two years of hell (at least). No doubt soon-to-be-ex would say the same although he does have a girlfriend now. Possibly a rebound job and ego-boost. Still not divorced although limping towards it. Financial settlement agreed (I think).

I wish I could have waved a magic wand and made the last few years less ghastly. If I knew what I know now I would have done things differently.

Thoughts from anyone? Advice? If you have been through it and come out the other side what, if anything would you have done differently? I know the grass isn't necessarily greener so have no illusions particularly. Just interested in other people's experiences or thoughts and can't find another thread which covers this.

Very tricky divorce over two years. I had to battle hard to keep the family home. If I'd lost it my Dad (who lives with me) would have been homeless too. Best thing about the divorce is how DexH and I have managed to forge a positive relationship. for the sake of the kids. Worse thing, (apart from my kids experiencing the loss) is the massively scary mortgage I have now.
I was unhappy for years before he left. Now I am happy and have met someone I truly love and who loves me back.

Thanks therune - it is the fear of the unknown that is so scary. Neither of us can stay in the family home as we can't afford to buy each other out. Finances are an issue - let's just say we have totally different approaches to money and always have done. It's funny (or not) that the red flags that were there right at the beginning are the things that broke us up. I have heard of quite a few cases where people divorce and then get on better! Sorry to hear about your scary mortgage but it sounds as though it's worth it for your freedom and how amazing you have found love again....