To not travel with DD?

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NC as this is outing. I'm sure the mum in question would be lovely about all of this so it's not really an AIBU about her, I'm just wondering whether I'm being precious.

Me, DH and DD are due to go to a christening tomorrow. 9 month old DD has been ill for about 2 weeks and I have been back and forth to the Drs trying to find out what was causing constant fever (even with alternating paracetamol and ibuprofen every 3 hours at Dr's advice it'd spike before the next dose due). Finally a couple of days ago another Dr had a good look and said she had tonsillitis and the antibiotics previously prescribed probably weren't the best effective for it since she wasn't getting better.

Although the fever seems to have worn off for the past day, DD is still very teary and unsettled. Her sleep has been awful and it shows on her face.

I don't know whether we should be considering 5 hours car travel in the morning, a day where DD is not likely to nap (she is always too busy nosing) and then a hotel stay where we are unlikely to get much sleep, rush home for early morning journey to start on Monday for 5 hours car travel again.

I think it's a lot for DD when she's not fully recovered yet but at the same time I'd love to be there too. AIBU to think I've got to sit this out with DD?

By tomorrow I mean in a couple of hours!

I would rather you keep DD at home than bring her round my kids tbh, if it were me. So YANBU to keep her home and I am sure the other mum would agree.

I wouldn’t do it, just doesn’t feel right - she’s not well and not been well for a good while, it’s too much travel and being away from home when she’s ill just feels worse.

Stay home

And what's the traffic going to be like? 2 big incidents on the roads today!

I'm surprised you would even consider travelling. Your baby is unwell and needs to be home. End of.

I would stay at home. Could your DH go on his own or is it your family/friend?

Stay home you've a small sick baby. Well one of you stay home at least

Don’t go. You’ll all be unhappy and stressed out

Stay home.

Your baby needs rest not a 5 hour car journey.

Send apologies. Maybe send a card and gift by post.

if you have a lot of money you could even send a same day or next day gift.

If I was the mum or dad I would love this... www.floraqueen.com/baby-gifts/baby-girls-first-memories#position=13/catalog=gifts-all

Hope your dd is better soon. Have a nice restful day and ask to see the Christening photos another time.

I've had to cancel a weekend trip as DS 9mths is poorly with an ear infection. Wouldn't have been fair on him (and miserable for the rest of us too when he's so unhappy)

Absolutely not being precious, don't go.

Whose christening is it? If it's your relative / friend, then I'd suggest you go on your own while your DH stays home with your daughter - unless she still needs you for night feedings or anything, that is. If it's his family / friend, then he could go on his own. It doesn't sound like a good idea to take your daughter out on a trip away overnight when she's been so ill.

I don't think you'll enjoy it.

I wouldn't want to drive all that way for a christening with a single overnight stay without a baby in tow, let alone a sick one.

Don't take her! If the christening is for someone very important to you (I'm guessing it is, or you wouldn't have considered going so far in the first place) maybe you or dh could go to the christening while the other one stays home with your little one.

But definitely don't take your baby!!! It isn't what she needs and isn't what anyone else needs.

I don't think I'd drive 5 hours for a christening full stop, let alone with a sick baby. Stay home, enjoy the sunshine

Whose christening is it? If your husband's side of family/ friend then he could go or if your side of family/ friend and the baby isn't breastfed then maybe you could go by yourself?

Crikey. Definitely stay at home. This trip is a tall order with a baby let alone a poorly one.

No! Don’t go! I’ve literally recovered from tonsillitis. It was the most Ill I’d felt in years. It was horrible. And I’m an adult! Poor poppet. Stay at home and let her get better.

I'd actually go so far as to think it cruel to travel so long with a sick baby. It also definitely won't be 5 hours by the time you've factored in at least 2 stops for milk feeds/lunch/dinner/what have you.

Stay home and rest!

ItsNiceItsDifferentItsUnusual I forgot about the stops!

@Italiangreyhound Great idea, thank you so much!

I feel awful as I missed the parents wedding due to not being able to get annual leave from work and they are really lovely people. It's a friend of DH but I'd already suggested DH going alone but he's concerned DD will go downhill or I will need help due to how she has been. DD is still BF so I can't leave her when ill especially.

Thank you all, I wasn't sure if it was just me because DH was still suggesting we just take the car journey, see how it goes and turn back if need be but I thought it seemed unfair on her, especially if we got halfway and then turned back, 5 hours for nothing! I'm glad we're not going as the heat is uncomfortable here and I dread to think what the car journey would be like in this weather, especially delays during a Bank Holiday weekend.

I hope you all have a fab Sunday and Bank Holiday Monday!