Holiday near my ex

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My daughter's DF has booked us all a short break last minute, (we are friends, not in a relationship but sometimes holiday together). Turns out he's unknowingly booked it 10 miles from the ex I've never got over. 10 miles sounds like a lot, but ex is in a very rural village and we are in the nearest town. Ex is now happily married and essentially living the life I'd always imagined having with him. Something I'm not over and really sad about.
I've just had a really stressful week and eyebags and skin look like crap. I'm so scared of running into ex and his wife. WIBU to hide in the holiday cottage with dvds and let DD and her dad go off on all the day trips without me? To be honest, I'd rather just have a holiday where I was alone and could relax. I know I should be grateful but I'll just be looking over my shoulder the whole time we're there.

How long ago did you break up? I’m very sorry but I think you’re being VVVVVU

Time to let this one go op,is this really about him or are there deeper issues going on?
Imho you should put this aside and enjoy the ho!today with your family,they grow up so fast you have to treasure every day.
You don't want to look back on this holiday as the one mum ruined because she was sad/sulky over an ex dp.forget him and move on

You really, really need to find a way to get over him op - the chances of running into him really are very minimal. I’ve never ran into my ex despite a good 30 visits to my hometown where he lives. You can’t let this dictate your life.

Yeah, sorry but you need to unpack that ex relationship and leave it behind.

And if you do run into ex and his wife they are unlikely to be bothered.

@user1473878824 I think that's unfair. Some breakups are VERY hard to get over and move on from. But yes I do agree that sometimes we also have to face these kind of situations to actually move on.

I feel your pain OP. Be strong and be proud how far you've already come.

You'll be surprised - this could be a turning point for you

YABU - concentrate on your DD's enjoyment of the holiday rather than your fear of what might happen. It's very unlikely you will see your ex.

YABVU and need to grow up. He's ten miles away and married.

You'd rather stay indoors and leave your DD? What message does that send.

It's great for her that you get along with her dad after the split, model that to her on holiday rather than hiding from a man that isn't in your life and won't be.

I can relate to this and 10 years on I find it hard to visit EXs town as I'm worried about bumping into him and his family. It's an extreme reaction and I am happily married etc... but nonetheless that feeling in my gut is still there.
I'm afraid that this is a case for mind over matter. You have a lovely break planned and a responsibilty to your family to face up to this one.

Your eye bags and bad skin come into the equation how? The ex is a married man, are you hoping that if you bump into each other something will happen? Sorry OP YABVU and come across as very immature.